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Dec 24, 2011

Surprise gifts from Tesla

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I picked up Tesla at 5 PM tonight.  I was a little bit early but it took another 15 minutes or so for her to come out.  I walked up to the door three times, and rang the bell.  I saw Heather in the house.  John saw me at the door and yelled out “she will be out soon” through the glass.  A little bit later John and Tesla came out, John carrying a large bag of gifts and Tesla’s school papers.   He said he would pick up Tesla at my parents at 11:45.  He’s on a tight schedule with Heather’s kids and all.

The gifts inside were for Dale: a cute stocking with a ginormous summer bologna stick, Hershey’s chocolates and walnuts.  There was a coupon for Chili’s, buy and adult meal, get a kid’s meal free.  It was expired.  Not expired, were McD’s coupons.  McD’s is his favorite place for quick food and a sweet tea.

I received a huge glass peanut jar.  Inside was Christmas tea towels, oven mitt, pot holder, cookie mix, icing, sprinkles, and a cookie cutter.  A second small gift was a Christmas ornament.  It says Mother & Daughter with a hole for a picture.  Hanging from the bottom is beautiful beading and a decorative tag that states:  2004  Hell, that was my first Christmas with John.  No baby yet…

There is a gift for Grandma and Grandpa in the bag too.

So at 11:45, Tesla and I will give John and his new girlfriend and kids the gifts we have for them.

Santa,

I need a divorce for Christmas.

Sincerely and seriously,

~P.

 

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Dec 12, 2011

Little Ballerina

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This afternoon was Tesla’s dance recital.  We had so much fun getting ready before the show!  Usually she doesn’t like her hair done, but for dance she was excited.  Not really for the hair bun I had to attempt, but because she could wear make-up!

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My brother and sister, Sam and Susan went with Dale, Tesla and I.  York Catholic High School was packed with people attending the recital.  Two of John’s brothers also came, Mike and Tim.  Tim brought along his girlfriend Vonnie.  Heather, John, Heather’s husband and his girlfriend were present too.  I could have lived with not seeing Mike (ass clown) but it was good to see Tim and Vonnie.

Heather and I were civil, almost friendly to each other in the girl’s locker room.  I used some of her hairspray to glue Tesla’s hair down.  As I was helping Tesla get in costume, I realized my “John’s good girl” tattoo was in plain view.  I almost started giggling at the thought of Heather seeing it in the flesh.  🙂  I held back the giggles and after I had Tesla’s leotard on, Heather came over and said “She needs her tights first.”  Then I did start laughing, just because I didn’t put the tights first.  Tesla thought it was funny too.

The first three rows were saved by John and Heather.  I asked him why he didn’t save a seat for me and he was just overwhelmed with saving the 10 he had for people coming to the show.  I rolled my eyes and said “I am her mom.”  About fifteen minutes later while I was with Tesla, John told Dale him and I could move up to the third row.  What a nice gesture!  John does have an occasional “nice” moment.  When Tesla was on stage I went to the front row and sat next to John to snap some pictures.  John recorded the kids dancing and Heather reminded him to record her children.  LOL  John needs poked like that at times.

All the children were adorable and tried hard.  The youngest ones were the most entertaining.  A few of them just stood in the limelight, frozen in front of the huge audience.  Tesla had a wonderful time along with Abigail, Gabrielle, Katelyn and Casey.  I am looking forward to the copy John promised to make me.

Here’s to an excellent show and an afternoon supporting all the kids at York Dance Arts!

~P.

P.S. My only critique:  The Ludachristmas song was an inappropriate song choice.

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Nov 29, 2011

Dear John and Heather

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Dear John and Heather,

    I decided it would be much easier just to address you both in this post.  Though I have made this painfully clear in the past, stop harassing my friends and family.  This includes my boyfriend Dale. 

   You have no business talking to him.  John, if you must speak to me about something concerning Tesla, I am all ears.  There should be no conversation between you and Dale or Heather and Dale. 

   The police told you not to harass me.  I didn’t realize I would have to include Dale on the list.  My friends and family don’t care to hear or see you.  (for that matter, no one wants to hear or see Heather either)  Don’t question anyone about Tesla, other than me.  You want to know something, check with her mother. 

    We all know you are a tough guy and love to be the bully.  Well that must stop.  Making a scene at Tesla’s dance class was just ridiculous.  Yes, I called Dale away from the two of you because I know how you treat people.  Heather is a great copycat of your drama king status.  Neither of you had any business questioning Dale about my where-abouts today. 

    Heather, I don’t want you throwing your useless and senseless comments in when John and I are trying to have a civil conversation.  I realize you would rather see John and I at each others throats.

  The two of you seem set on making this as difficult as possible for me to see Tesla.  You are quick to cause problems that just are trivial and then threaten to sue me for contempt for attending my classes.  That says so much about the two of you.  It saddens me that you both will go out of your way to be negative, hateful and bitter about the wonderful relationship Tesla and I have.  A relationship that neither of you can completely control.  In the end, you will just ruin any thread of a relationship you ever had with Tess, all on your own.

Karma,

~P.

 

 

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Nov 27, 2011

STALKER

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I used to refer to my husband as my stalker.  “I married my stalker” I would say.

John would listen to my phone calls or hide and listen in on my conversation.  He was an expert at sneaking around for being such a big guy.  Of course he could always get someone to “spy” on me if he couldn’t do the “checking up” himself.  I thought once I managed to escape my “prison guard” I wouldn’t have to worry about feeling like I was in prison.

Sure, John let me have a little freedom.  He preferred to go where every I was going or have me in his presence 24-7.  Even after 3 years of separation, he still can’t let go of me and move on.  Maybe it’s the divorce holding him up also.

John invades my dreams and my reality.  Almost every night I dream about John.  Lucky me huh?  Sometimes it’s fighting, sometimes his girlfriends are involved.  Kelly still pops into dream land now and then.  Usually Heather isn’t part of my dreams.  Whew!

Don’t ask me why I dream about my stalker.  I guess I just haven’t shaken him from my subconscious yet….if that is even possible.

I checked my cellphone not to long after I got up from bed.  At 8:58 AM John sent me a text:  “I see your resume classes tomorrow.”

I find that creepy.  Like when he sent me a text at a Revolution’s ballgame that Tesla, Jarrid and I were attending with friends.  John was there too and shortly after I arrived he sent me this text:  “I see you.”  Can you say creeper?????  I can’t believe I married this guy!!

So I sent him a reply to his creepy class text:  “yes” and a little later “how do you see that?”  He never replied.  I’m sure he’s trying to get me to say I won’t have Tesla with me tomorrow and his response will be “then you can’t have her because the court order says she must be in your presence while in my custody.”  Would that surprise me?  NOT AT ALL.

I don’t look into where John is while he has Tesla.  I already know he gets lots of different people to babysit while he is out doing God knows what.  He is just obsessed with this never-ending relationship and how he can control me and Tesla every chance he gets.  You would think with Heather and her 4 children he would be too busy to pay attention to my schedule.

Apparently not,

~P.

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Nov 26, 2011

Dear Heather~ delivery receipt

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Dear Heather,

This is a delivery receipt for Tesla’s antibiotics and ointment.  Thank you for dropping that off.  I immediately took her inside from the mailbox and applied it.  I guess since it’s “your fault” the medicine wasn’t sent, you get those little brownie points erased.

On the other hand, if you hadn’t taken the medicine out of Tesla’s bookbag, she would not have been treated while in her father’s care.  It’s a good thing you are there looking out for Tesla.

I’m sure you didn’t have a problem with delivering the medicine.  Just wondering why her dad didn’t take care of that.  He couldn’t be bothered with checking Tesla’s book bag.  Didn’t stop to drop off the medicine….is he really that busy?

Anyway, I got a little carried away.

Meds received.

If I have to have someone living in my house, with my future ex-husband and acting as step-mom to my daughter, I thank you Heather.  Let’s see how long you can stick it out with that Bull.

Best Wishes,

~P.

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Nov 26, 2011

Dear John~ you frustrate me

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Dear John,

Why would you tell me Tesla’s medicine is in her bag if you hadn’t checked?  It wasn’t in there.  You told me you didn’t even take it out while she was with you.  I know you are in the middle of throwing a party but come on?!

You get Tesla back for 8 hours and already can’t get things right.

Tesla said Heather put the medicine on her face.  Apparently Heather is taking care of Tesla because you are just such a busy man.

See you tomorrow when you drop of her meds.

Yes, I am pissed.

~P.

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Nov 22, 2011

What is court?

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I had made a promise to Tesla back when the original custody agreement was made (2009) that I would tell her if anything changed.  I said, “It’s not for you to worry about.  If anything changes I will let you know.  In the meantime you will still spend half you time with Daddy and half with me.”  On numerous occasions Tesla told me she wanted to live with me during the week.  School had not started at this point and where she was going to start school was decided by a court hearing.  The decision was she would go to school from the marital residence where her dad is living.

About 2 months pass….

Yesterday the decision of custody was determined.  Tesla would be in primary care of her father and mother will have visitation every other weekend.  Arrangements for other visitation times will have to be agreed upon by John and I.  I have faith he will allow Tesla and I to share time together without hesitation.  We already agreed on how the rest of this week would go without even raises our voices.  Progress achieved already!  I truely believe the two of us can work out something between us so I get as much time with Tesla as Tesla would like considering, she didn’t get to live with the parent of her choice.

I also believe the person who will make this new custody agreement the most difficult will be Heather.  Even though she is of no relation to Tesla and will not be any relation soon, she feels the need to put in her opinion, jab, critique and nonsense freely,  as if she has that right.  It would much easier to speak to John without Heather involved.  I don’t involve Dale with decisions concerning Tesla so I don’t understand why John allows Heather such involvement.  Besides being my husband’s girlfriend, I don’t believe Heather is particulary intelligent and I don’t agree with her parenting style.  (Which seems to be just let John handle everything her kids need before and after school)

As promised, I talked to Tesla about the change of custody.  She asked what court was and I explained how a judge in the courthouse decided she should live with her dad during the week and I would see her every other weekend.  She immediately began to insist the judge could’t make her stay with her dad all week.  I explained that the judge did have the power to make this happen but her dad and I will work together to make sure Tesla and I still see each other regularly.

I also explained that over the summer, she would live with dad for a week, then with me for a week.  She thought that over a little bit and said, “I want to live with you now.”  I told her that I understand she is upset and disappointed and that I felt the same way but we have to do what the judge said.  I also told her that the judge said custody can always change in the future.

Her and I both agreed to try our best with the new custody order.  I told her I want her to be happy and that is what is most important to me.  If at some point there is a legitimate reason to request a change in custody, I will do so.  For now, we will deal with what the law states.  You never know what may happen in the future that may lead to a custody change.

Me ~n~ TT are good,

~P.

P.S.  Yes, I am disappointed I wasn’t awarded majority custody.  Will that make me lay down, shed tears and curl up in a corner?  Hell no!  I will spend time with Tesla and Dale and work hard at college….and my future book, “I used to drive a Mercedes.”

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Nov 20, 2011

Tomorrow is decision day

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It is Sunday and I am taking a moment to reflect on tomorrow.

A judge will decide where Tesla will live.  My daughter knows in the past, decision were made for her and for her parents, by someone who works at the courthouse.  A Judge, in this case, Judge Dorney will decide who Tesla will spend the majority of her time.

John pled his case.  Heather backed him up on his awesomeness.  Diane and Todd took the stand, said things that may or may not have helped John’s case.  LaDonna took the stand and in my opinion, mouthed the words she had been instructed to say.  What else can she do?  She still wants a paycheck from the business.  She may feel indebted to John, at one time he loaned La $4,000 without mentioning a word to me.  In fact, he told La not to mention the loan.  After I was moved out and she continued working for John, he suggested she move in with her daughters, Kennedy and Ashtyn.  John liked to think of everyone as family and their kids, his kids.  LaDonna had no interest in moving in with John, as her boyfriend or otherwise.  There’s just so much that doesn’t get brought up in court.  At least not the custody court.  Who knows how the divorce court will go.

I pled my case.  It was pretty simple.  Dale took the stand and testified on my behalf.  As did my son Jarrid.  It all boils down to which story sounds the most truthful to Judge Dorney and which parent she feels will have Tesla’s interests first.

No matter what the decision is, it will have to be explained to a five and a half-year old.

No easy task,

~P.

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Nov 17, 2011

Dear John~got insurance

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Dear John,

So much of what you say is bullshit, I barely can stomach hearing you talk.  There is little I believe, that you say.

Once again, I wasn’t surprised when you were at the house this morning.  I’m not sure why I even ask if you can meet me in the mornings to exchange Tesla.  Today you were going to be working, but like I said, you were home instead.  Now why was it you couldn’t meet me this morning?

I find it just ironic that when Tesla has any type of appointment for her health, whether physical or mental, you are more worried about the cost more than anything else.  Today, Tesla had to have blood drawn to make sure she wasn’t infected with lyme’s disease by a tick.  Before the painful process of having her little arms stuck twice, the nurse asked for Tesla’s insurance.  I waited a moment to see if you would pipe up with some answer, but you didn’t.  Just waited for me to break out my welfare card.

After the appointment we went our separate ways…Tesla with me and Heather and two of her girls with you.  I’m not sure why Heather and kids needed to tag along.  Perhaps you all had somewhere important to go.

My text to you “it’s nice how me being on welfare keeps your child’s medical bills paid huh?”

Your response made no sense….”I wouldn’t know.  I’m not on welfare.”

I replied “No..but you don’t have a problem using me to get Tesla’s bills paid.”

I find it pathetic that you continue to drag this divorce out.  You use my unfortunate situation to take advantage of the state’s welfare system.  I believe if you could stretch this divorce out for all eternity, you would.  That way you can continue to claim all business proceeds as just your income, never have to settle on our maritial home and have your child’s medical bills all paid, school lunches covered etc.  The $52 a month paid for alimony is much cheaper than paying for health insurance isn’t it?  Meanwhile you and your girlfriend with her 4 kids continue on, as if you don’t have a wife who is waiting for a divorce.

Shame on you for using me, the welfare system and your child for your own benefit.

Your Greed is showing,

~P.

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Nov 13, 2011

Dear John~get over yourself

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Catching up with the wagon

 

Dear John,

Guess who called today?  Wells Fargo.  They said they spoke to you earlier.

So what kind of explanation did you give them for not paying the $2770 due on the mortgage?  I was just shocked it wasn’t paid, but apparently they have been calling on a regular basis.  I don’t take calls while I’m in class so I guess they missed me.  I did have a message from they yesterday.

They asked me why it wasn’t paid and I couldn’t give a good reason.  I told them you were taking a vacation and I didn’t realize the mortgage was behind.  I also let them know I didn’t live there, wasn’t allowed in the property and had no intentions of ever living there again.  Oh, and my income is the $185 I get from you every other week.

How can you insist that everything is alright with the house if the mortgage company keeps calling??  You told the judge there was “no problems” with the mortgage.

Sigh,

~P.

P.S.  Any clothes with any black magic marker inside will automatically be returned.  I don’t understand Heather’s attempt at trademarking Tesla’s clothes.

 

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