What is court?

I had made a promise to Tesla back when the original custody agreement was made (2009) that I would tell her if anything changed.  I said, “It’s not for you to worry about.  If anything changes I will let you know.  In the meantime you will still spend half you time with Daddy and half with me.”  On numerous occasions Tesla told me she wanted to live with me during the week.  School had not started at this point and where she was going to start school was decided by a court hearing.  The decision was she would go to school from the marital residence where her dad is living.

About 2 months pass….

Yesterday the decision of custody was determined.  Tesla would be in primary care of her father and mother will have visitation every other weekend.  Arrangements for other visitation times will have to be agreed upon by John and I.  I have faith he will allow Tesla and I to share time together without hesitation.  We already agreed on how the rest of this week would go without even raises our voices.  Progress achieved already!  I truely believe the two of us can work out something between us so I get as much time with Tesla as Tesla would like considering, she didn’t get to live with the parent of her choice.

I also believe the person who will make this new custody agreement the most difficult will be Heather.  Even though she is of no relation to Tesla and will not be any relation soon, she feels the need to put in her opinion, jab, critique and nonsense freely,  as if she has that right.  It would much easier to speak to John without Heather involved.  I don’t involve Dale with decisions concerning Tesla so I don’t understand why John allows Heather such involvement.  Besides being my husband’s girlfriend, I don’t believe Heather is particulary intelligent and I don’t agree with her parenting style.  (Which seems to be just let John handle everything her kids need before and after school)

As promised, I talked to Tesla about the change of custody.  She asked what court was and I explained how a judge in the courthouse decided she should live with her dad during the week and I would see her every other weekend.  She immediately began to insist the judge could’t make her stay with her dad all week.  I explained that the judge did have the power to make this happen but her dad and I will work together to make sure Tesla and I still see each other regularly.

I also explained that over the summer, she would live with dad for a week, then with me for a week.  She thought that over a little bit and said, “I want to live with you now.”  I told her that I understand she is upset and disappointed and that I felt the same way but we have to do what the judge said.  I also told her that the judge said custody can always change in the future.

Her and I both agreed to try our best with the new custody order.  I told her I want her to be happy and that is what is most important to me.  If at some point there is a legitimate reason to request a change in custody, I will do so.  For now, we will deal with what the law states.  You never know what may happen in the future that may lead to a custody change.

Me ~n~ TT are good,


P.S.  Yes, I am disappointed I wasn’t awarded majority custody.  Will that make me lay down, shed tears and curl up in a corner?  Hell no!  I will spend time with Tesla and Dale and work hard at college….and my future book, “I used to drive a Mercedes.”


  1. You go girl….. Do not let this put u down. You have always been a strong person and john will get what he deserves one day. Tesla will have a say !
    Love ya. Smile and hold ur head high. 🙂

  2. Ps. I strong heartedly believe you and john should have sat tesla down and explained what is happening and why. What a father.

  3. As usual, I have something to say. After many bouts of furious backspacing, I have drawn the following conclusions. A) At some point in time, when Douchebag and his “dedicated” Douchenozzle decide that Tesla needs to be kept busy to properly provide “parental care” (I use the term “parental care” loosely) that neither party actually desire to properly afford her, it will be time to report the activity to the proper authority. B) Because Little Miss Illiterate Douchenozzle has four children and one that is not her “natural” child, it will be a matter of time before she is treated as such and shall be reported to the proper authorities especially anonymously by me should someone happen to inform me of Douchebag’s proper address, or not, of course. C) If Little Miss Illiterate Douchenozzle prizes and values the religious belief she alludes to, committing adultery is breaking the appropriate corresponding “Ten Commandments” which, biblically, becomes the sin of that person’s children. D) While sharing two–okay I’ll give some credit where due–three functioning neurons in an almost shared cranial cavity (they sleep together so I imagine they jump back and forth like fleas) will eventually lead to an act of stupidity and irresponsibility (Let us take a moment to reflect that Miss Douchenozzle is unable to keep her legs together or accurately use birth control more effective than the rhythm method, which to her means “go slower”) that will be an event that is begging for report to the proper agency. And finally E) when Tesla, who already shows excelled intellect, is of proper age to choose for herself to whom she shall live with she will choose to live with the parent that has more than a single digit IQ, since most of the time his decisions are made with the inappropriate organ and she has suffered through the stupidity for long enough. I would, if I were you, finish school and get a permanent address and secure a very good job and then appeal.

    You do know what to do with a douchebag and douchenozzle when it becomes too old?

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