You were warned
Picture I came across from 2001. Rated PG. LOL
~P.
Feb 27, 2012
Kid, cat and a chainsaw
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Blaine & Emily
This is a cute picture of Blaine looking out the sliding glass door at my cat Emily. Blaine was just three years old I believe. He thought Emily was so pretty. I don’t know where Emily is anymore. John called the SPCA to come take her and Tesla’s cat Sparky, away. He claimed they were strays. Disposable cats, just like dogs in John’s world.
Later that day, John took Blaine outside with him. John decide to trim the sumac trees. He accidentally bumped Blaine in the back of the head with the chainsaw.
Thank God it was not engaged.
Blaine will forever be missing hair and have a scar where Uncle John almost cut off his head.
~P.
Feb 26, 2012
Why the parking lot at Dover Valley is always empty
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Feb 26, 2012
Cuestionario de looner
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Por favor, copie y pegue en un documento de correo electrónico o palabra. Un correo electrónico a pcrider@ycp.edu.
Nombre o Alias:
Género:
Edad:
Ocupación:
¿Qué edad encontraste que te gustó globos?
¿A qué edad globos hizo parte del sexo para usted?
¿Es este fetiche compartido con su significant other?
¿Por qué o por qué no?
¿¿Revelan su fetiche de la familia? ¿Amigos?
¿Qué pasa con globos ¿te encontrar atractivo?
¿Cómo se involucran globos en una experiencia sexual?
¿Encontrar otros objetos que pueden contener aire estimulante? (guantes de látex, condones, etc.).
¿Son sexualmente estimulada sólo por el espectáculo de los globos? (en una fiesta tradicional)
¿Tamaño, la forma o el color del globo hace una diferencia?
¿Son globos de helio globos regulares de soplado más atractivo?
¿Si un globo tiene un globo dentro, que es más estimulante?
¿Prefiere volar globos o inflar con helio?
¿Alguna vez rellena globos con algo distinto de aire? (agua, arena, mayonesa, jugo de pickle)
¿Son los globos Plata (florete) atractivo?
¿Tienes una memoria específica de globo desde la infancia? ¿Bueno o malo?
¿Te gusta pop globos?
¿Obtener conectado a los globos y odio cuando ellos pop?
¿Tienes un momento favorito looner?
¿En su opinión hay cualquier daño en un fetiche de globo? (Físicamente, psicológicamente, etc.)
¿Lo que otros piensan de Looners?
¿Siendo un Looner tiene algún efecto sobre sus relaciones con los demás?
¿Que encontró que la actividad más agradable con un globo? (oler, sentir, estático, apareciendo el sonido, etc.).
Cualquier otro comentario por favor escriba tanto como le gustaría.
¡Gracias!
Pattie Crider
York College de PA
Feb 26, 2012
Vegas Strip
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It’s 2 AM and I’m not real sleepy. I’ve been sleeping off food poisoning for the past two days.
My friend Laurie has me hooked on Angry Birds on Facebook. Laurie doesn’t know she started me on this version. I think my sister Suz was the first to show me Angry Birds. Thanks Suz, I think.
While I’m playing, this show Vegas Strip is on tv. It’s a reality show in Vegas following the police. I am half paying attention. I’ve been to Vegas several times with John and it is certainly an amazing city.
A police officer pulls over a truck that was driving slowly beside a woman, thinking hooker/jon. She was actually the man’s wife and didn’t want to get in the truck with him because she was so pissed off. He had lost $200 at a casino and she was irate and drunk. I started to pay closer attention to the tv because it made me think of the time in Vegas that John lost $1000 in one hand of cards. I was also irate, just not drunk.
The female officer was talking to the wife and told her she had a right to be mad at him. The wife said, “My husband say, get in the truck, they think I’m hookering.” The female officer giggled at that.
Next the wife said, “I know it’s not going to work with him. I love him but I hate him.” Wow, I could so relate to what this woman was saying. The female officer asked why stay and she gave the classic answer, “for our kids. Sixteen years with that man.”
There were no charges filed against wife and hubby. The female officer looked genuinely concerned for the wife while the male officer encouraged her to kiss and make up with her husband. The husband made his wife feel guilty and convinced her to give him a kiss and get in the truck. As the couple drove away the male officer said, “They kissed and made up, a happy ending after all.” The female officer looked at him like he was crazy.
Now, I can’t imagine being in a relationship with John anymore. Why? Because I loved him, but I didn’t like him. How does that make sense? I don’t know.
He just can’t guilt me anymore.
~P.
Feb 24, 2012
Maybe it’s just me
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but I doubt it.
I believe I have a right to be pissed off that the mortgage I hold with my husband is once again way behind.
He doesn’t have to pay child support or alimony anymore. He apparently has plenty of money to go on vacation, buy another ATV, build all kinds of wooden structures in our back yard, redesign the inside of our house, redo the landscape of our property, enroll 4 kids in gymnastics at $44 each a month…I could go on, but the point is clear.
His girlfriend still gets alimony and child support….and welfare assistance while living in my house that is behind AGAIN in payments.
I take out school loans to make my rent. Maybe Heather needs to hurry up and take out a school loan to make my house payments. John’s explantion in court regarding his ability to come up with $15,000 to keep the house from foreclosured last year just didn’t make sense. He said he sold some stuff. What the fuck is he selling to come up with $15k? Telling Judge Dorney he had the mortgages current was bullshit and her believing him without making him prove it just shows how bad she screwed up. The mortgage hasn’t been current since I lived there with John.
I get very little time with my child, yet the bitch living in my house sees Tesla like she is her mother. I don’t see that Heather is even talented at taking care of her own children. Just my opinion, of course.
Like I said, maybe it’s just me. I have been sick for the past 12 hours. Food poisoning I think and thank God I’m feeling better.
I’ve asked to see Tesla over and over. My requests fall on deaf ears. It’s all about John’s need to feel he is in control.
Divorce wanted,
~P.
Feb 24, 2012
Scheduled Control
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What is scheduled control?
When a person (A) in power feels he or she must strictly schedule another persons (B) day. The amount of power held by A varies, depending on the relationship held with B.
For Example:
1. John (A) has a large amount of power over Tesla (B) because A is the father of B and has a court order that A believes empowers him to:
a. Rigidly set B a schedule that allows very small amounts of personal time for B to make a choice in how her time is spent.
b. Making a schedule for B that is so vague it is clear A is exercising coercive power to avoid allowing B the opportunity to make a choice in how her time is spent.
2. John (A) has a large amount of power over Pattie (C) because A is the husband of C and B is the daughter of A and C.
a. Majority of attempts by C to contact A results in continual avoidance of answering the text messages, email and phone calls.
b. A regularly asserts power over B and C by changing the schedule of B at a moments notice to cause distress to C.
3. Pattie (C) will in time, have a large amount of power over C because eventually A is going to fuck up so bad that B will be disgusted by his pathetic attempt to control her schedule.
a. Result hypothesis: A and C= Happy B=Sad
THAT is what scheduled control is!
~P.
P.S. Yes, I wrote all that myself. A little bit of psych, a little bit of human communication and a large dose of controlling personalities. Maybe “scheduled control” will become a new psychology term. I didn’t bother to look if it might be one already. 🙂
Feb 23, 2012
Listen up stupid
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My ears are on
Feel like no one listens to you? Even been caught not listening?
How to enhance verbal communications skills:
Simplify your words, concepts and meanings. Keep it simple stupid.
Get to the point. Don’t we all know someone who can’t get to the damn point?
Effective Listening:
Find areas of interest. Don’t tune out dry subjects but instead ask, “what’s in it for me?”
I try to find something interesting that the person next to me is yammering on about.
Judge content, not delivery.
Just because someone can’t speak for shit doesn’t mean they are stupid. (There are exceptions)
Hold your fire.
Make sure you know what they are saying before you go off on someone. (That kind of ruins the fun.)
Listen for ideas. Now and then they come from people you never would expect.
Be flexible. That’s a given.
Work at listening. I knew that one….marriage counseling.
Resist distractions. Damn, I love distractions.
Exercise your mind. Does doing a crossword puzzle while on the stair climber count?
Keep your mind open. If my mind gets any more open my brains will spill out.
Next Chapter: The Self and what I mean to me.
~P.
Bold print text taken directly from Effective Listening hand-out Jl.16, everything else is just my thought process. 🙂
Feb 23, 2012
Communication Test
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Can you hear me now?
How Pattie studies for Human Communication Test
Verbal Communication is: words (spoken, written or coded) in an attempt to communicate with others.
Some people just fucking suck at this.
Power in Communication is: the ability to influence or control the behaviors of another person.
Some people should never have power.
Legitimate power-when people believe you have a right-by virtue of your position-to influence or control others’ behaviors. Examples of this power: employer, judge, manager or police officer.
It goes to their head.
Referent power-when others wish to be like you. (a younger brother looking up to an older brother)
I looked up to my mother.
Reward power-when a person controls the rewards others want. Examples would be: money, promotion, jewelry, love, friendship, respect…
I know someone who likes to control the rewards.
Coercive power– when you have the ability to administer punishment to or remove rewards from others if they do not do as you wish. Usually this power is in conjunction with Reward power. Examples would be teachers, supervisors, spouses.
Way too many assholes have this type of power.
Expert power– when you have expertise knowledge on a subject.
More of this power is needed.
Information power (also called “persuasion power”)-when others see you as having the ability to communicate logically and persuasively.
I know some seriously persuasive people, one impeticular.
Power is not static; it can be increased or decreased depending on what someone does and doesn’t do.
I am learning how the written word can be used to communicate intimately and publicly. Lol The pen is mightier than the sword…
You can decrease or lose power. The most common way to lose power is by unsuccessfully trying to control another’s behavior. Example: If you threaten to do something then fail to carry out your threat, most likely, you will lose power.
Threatened with divorce…where the hell is it?
You can lose power by allowing other to control you or take unfair advantage of you. When you don’t confront these power tactics, you lose power.
I remember feeling that way. I no longer feel that way because I’ve taken my power back! Amazing what the power of knowledge is and how it makes you feel about yourself.
Next chapter please,
~P.
Oh btw….The sentences in italics are my own thoughts, everything else is right out of Essentials of Human Communication by Joseph A. DeVito
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