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Why the parking lot at Dover Valley is always empty
Cuestionario de looner
Vegas Strip
It’s 2 AM and I’m not real sleepy. I’ve been sleeping off food poisoning for the past two days.
My friend Laurie has me hooked on Angry Birds on Facebook. Laurie doesn’t know she started me on this version. I think my sister Suz was the first to show me Angry Birds. Thanks Suz, I think.
While I’m playing, this show Vegas Strip is on tv. It’s a reality show in Vegas following the police. I am half paying attention. I’ve been to Vegas several times with John and it is certainly an amazing city.
A police officer pulls over a truck that was driving slowly beside a woman, thinking hooker/jon. She was actually the man’s wife and didn’t want to get in the truck with him because she was so pissed off. He had lost $200 at a casino and she was irate and drunk. I started to pay closer attention to the tv because it made me think of the time in Vegas that John lost $1000 in one hand of cards. I was also irate, just not drunk.
The female officer was talking to the wife and told her she had a right to be mad at him. The wife said, “My husband say, get in the truck, they think I’m hookering.” The female officer giggled at that.
Next the wife said, “I know it’s not going to work with him. I love him but I hate him.” Wow, I could so relate to what this woman was saying. The female officer asked why stay and she gave the classic answer, “for our kids. Sixteen years with that man.”
There were no charges filed against wife and hubby. The female officer looked genuinely concerned for the wife while the male officer encouraged her to kiss and make up with her husband. The husband made his wife feel guilty and convinced her to give him a kiss and get in the truck. As the couple drove away the male officer said, “They kissed and made up, a happy ending after all.” The female officer looked at him like he was crazy.
Now, I can’t imagine being in a relationship with John anymore. Why? Because I loved him, but I didn’t like him. How does that make sense? I don’t know.
He just can’t guilt me anymore.
~P.
Maybe it’s just me
but I doubt it.
I believe I have a right to be pissed off that the mortgage I hold with my husband is once again way behind.
He doesn’t have to pay child support or alimony anymore. He apparently has plenty of money to go on vacation, buy another ATV, build all kinds of wooden structures in our back yard, redesign the inside of our house, redo the landscape of our property, enroll 4 kids in gymnastics at $44 each a month…I could go on, but the point is clear.
His girlfriend still gets alimony and child support….and welfare assistance while living in my house that is behind AGAIN in payments.
I take out school loans to make my rent. Maybe Heather needs to hurry up and take out a school loan to make my house payments. John’s explantion in court regarding his ability to come up with $15,000 to keep the house from foreclosured last year just didn’t make sense. He said he sold some stuff. What the fuck is he selling to come up with $15k? Telling Judge Dorney he had the mortgages current was bullshit and her believing him without making him prove it just shows how bad she screwed up. The mortgage hasn’t been current since I lived there with John.
I get very little time with my child, yet the bitch living in my house sees Tesla like she is her mother. I don’t see that Heather is even talented at taking care of her own children. Just my opinion, of course.
Like I said, maybe it’s just me. I have been sick for the past 12 hours. Food poisoning I think and thank God I’m feeling better.
I’ve asked to see Tesla over and over. My requests fall on deaf ears. It’s all about John’s need to feel he is in control.
Divorce wanted,
~P.
Scheduled Control
What is scheduled control?
When a person (A) in power feels he or she must strictly schedule another persons (B) day. The amount of power held by A varies, depending on the relationship held with B.
For Example:
1. John (A) has a large amount of power over Tesla (B) because A is the father of B and has a court order that A believes empowers him to:
a. Rigidly set B a schedule that allows very small amounts of personal time for B to make a choice in how her time is spent.
b. Making a schedule for B that is so vague it is clear A is exercising coercive power to avoid allowing B the opportunity to make a choice in how her time is spent.
2. John (A) has a large amount of power over Pattie (C) because A is the husband of C and B is the daughter of A and C.
a. Majority of attempts by C to contact A results in continual avoidance of answering the text messages, email and phone calls.
b. A regularly asserts power over B and C by changing the schedule of B at a moments notice to cause distress to C.
3. Pattie (C) will in time, have a large amount of power over C because eventually A is going to fuck up so bad that B will be disgusted by his pathetic attempt to control her schedule.
a. Result hypothesis: A and C= Happy B=Sad
THAT is what scheduled control is!
~P.
P.S. Yes, I wrote all that myself. A little bit of psych, a little bit of human communication and a large dose of controlling personalities. Maybe “scheduled control” will become a new psychology term. I didn’t bother to look if it might be one already. 🙂
Listen up stupid
My ears are on
Feel like no one listens to you? Even been caught not listening?
How to enhance verbal communications skills:
Simplify your words, concepts and meanings. Keep it simple stupid.
Get to the point. Don’t we all know someone who can’t get to the damn point?
Effective Listening:
Find areas of interest. Don’t tune out dry subjects but instead ask, “what’s in it for me?”
I try to find something interesting that the person next to me is yammering on about.
Judge content, not delivery.
Just because someone can’t speak for shit doesn’t mean they are stupid. (There are exceptions)
Hold your fire.
Make sure you know what they are saying before you go off on someone. (That kind of ruins the fun.)
Listen for ideas. Now and then they come from people you never would expect.
Be flexible. That’s a given.
Work at listening. I knew that one….marriage counseling.
Resist distractions. Damn, I love distractions.
Exercise your mind. Does doing a crossword puzzle while on the stair climber count?
Keep your mind open. If my mind gets any more open my brains will spill out.
Next Chapter: The Self and what I mean to me.
~P.
Bold print text taken directly from Effective Listening hand-out Jl.16, everything else is just my thought process. 🙂
Communication Test
Can you hear me now?
How Pattie studies for Human Communication Test
Verbal Communication is: words (spoken, written or coded) in an attempt to communicate with others.
Some people just fucking suck at this.
Power in Communication is: the ability to influence or control the behaviors of another person.
Some people should never have power.
Legitimate power-when people believe you have a right-by virtue of your position-to influence or control others’ behaviors. Examples of this power: employer, judge, manager or police officer.
It goes to their head.
Referent power-when others wish to be like you. (a younger brother looking up to an older brother)
I looked up to my mother.
Reward power-when a person controls the rewards others want. Examples would be: money, promotion, jewelry, love, friendship, respect…
I know someone who likes to control the rewards.
Coercive power– when you have the ability to administer punishment to or remove rewards from others if they do not do as you wish. Usually this power is in conjunction with Reward power. Examples would be teachers, supervisors, spouses.
Way too many assholes have this type of power.
Expert power– when you have expertise knowledge on a subject.
More of this power is needed.
Information power (also called “persuasion power”)-when others see you as having the ability to communicate logically and persuasively.
I know some seriously persuasive people, one impeticular.
Power is not static; it can be increased or decreased depending on what someone does and doesn’t do.
I am learning how the written word can be used to communicate intimately and publicly. Lol The pen is mightier than the sword…
You can decrease or lose power. The most common way to lose power is by unsuccessfully trying to control another’s behavior. Example: If you threaten to do something then fail to carry out your threat, most likely, you will lose power.
Threatened with divorce…where the hell is it?
You can lose power by allowing other to control you or take unfair advantage of you. When you don’t confront these power tactics, you lose power.
I remember feeling that way. I no longer feel that way because I’ve taken my power back! Amazing what the power of knowledge is and how it makes you feel about yourself.
Next chapter please,
~P.
Oh btw….The sentences in italics are my own thoughts, everything else is right out of Essentials of Human Communication by Joseph A. DeVito
Looner Proposal
This proposal is aimed at determining if the sexual fetish of balloons, referred to a “looners” may cause physical or psychological harm to a participant. Determining this is my first objective but I also have interest in learning more about this sexual fetish and the people who participate.
My executive summary will explain what is considered a sexual fetish and how I became aware of balloons as a sexual fetish. At this point, I have found no print copies in any format to use as a research tool. All the information about looners is on the World Wide Web. As I gather information and perform my own research online I plan to give a clearer meaning of this fetish and why it is labeled a fetish. In doing so, I believe my conclusions will give honest answers to questions non-looner people have.
I have prepared a questionnaire and e-mailed it to people I have found online who are part of the looner community. One person I have successfully reached online appeared on The Learning Channel’s show, “Strange Sex” and talked with them about his balloon fetish. I have emailed him the questionnaire but I am not sure if he will reply. Since sending out the questionnaire, I have received five responses. Some responses are anonymous but all of them are answered honestly.
Click to see questionnaire. http://girlboxer1970.com/2012/02/19/looner-questionnaire/
From the information I gather on the internet combined with first hand research, I believe a conclusion will be reached concerning the possible harm in practicing this fetish. Also, a clearer definition of looners will be established and I will include respondent’s comments to help clarify what makes a balloon a sexual object and why.
~P.
Dear Campus Safety
Security?
Dear Officers,
Today I received a phone call concerning my dog Ying. I called the York College campus officer back and was told there were complaints about my dog staying in my car while I am in class. Hmmm.
Yesterday, while my boyfriend and I were in the Humanities building passing time until 8 PM, I could hear two kids running in the halls and laughing. I looked out the door of the Professional Writing Studio and as the kids ran by one a jaw breaker inside, hitting Dale in the head. They kept going and when they looped around the older boy threw another jaw breaker and hit Dale a second time. I was furious.
I followed the boys and they ran out of the building. I picked up the phone right inside the double doors to call campus security but there was no number listed by the phone to contact them. I went back to the studio and used my cell phone (number is in my contacts) and reached an answering machine. Now I was really pissed! I went in the learning center and asked someone to look up the emergency number of campus security. I then called and let the emergency operator know about these two boys.
About 5-8 minutes later, I walk outside and the same two boys are taking ice out of the Gatorade containers behind Humanities and throwing it at cars and people. When I yelled at them, the older boy started throwing the ice at me, running around in circles, and laughing. I think it’s possible he may have been on something by the way he was acting. I went back inside and called the emergency number again. Meanwhile, the boys jumped into the stream and ran through the properties on the other side.
Oh, campus security did eventually arrive. Of course they missed everything even though at least 15 minutes had passed with these boys raising hell. Maybe if they gave more attention to the actual problems on campus they wouldn’t have the free time to bitch about my dog in the car. I’m told people are complaining about Ying. Complaining how? He is fed, has water, gets exercised between classes, and cannot hurt anyone walking past my car. Why is it a problem on campus?
Here are some problems that should be addressed.
- The phone number for campus safety and emergency should be posted by every phone on campus.
- The response time to a call needs to greatly improve.
- The removal of people trespassing on campus needs to be taken seriously. So far I’ve seen at least one trespasser confront a student in the parking lot with the intention of taking her personal property.
- Any kids on campus that are clearly too young to be students should be questioned why they are there. I don’t know if the boys from last night were children of a professor, staff etc., but their behavior was disruptive and possibly dangerous to others as well as themselves. What if they had entered the building with guns or knives instead of jaw breakers, and Runts candies? What if they had been throwing rocks instead of ice?
My dog isn’t hurting anyone. If people are complaining, I would love to know why. Mr. Security Officer didn’t have an answer to why people were complaining, just that my dog can’t hang out in my car. Sounds like a bunch of dog shit to me. How about security officers focus on the underage drinking, drug use, non-permit parked cars and trespassers on campus?
I can’t say campus security makes me feel any safer. Can you?
~P.
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