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Oct 31, 2011

An interesting note

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I was just thinking how interesting is was that even after multiple contempt charges, I was only ever found guilty of writing “on the driveway” and “on the truck tires” in chalk.  The “hindering of business” is what got me yanked out of my house.

If you shared property and business with your spouse and there was an issue with worker’s compensation taxes, employee taxes and truck insurance wouldn’t you be concerned that the trucks were still going to roll out of your driveway and possibly be involved in an accident?  Sorry I tried to warn the employees.  I guess I was just to turn a blind eye.

Do you recall all the contempt charges that had been filed against me?  http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/09/02/issues-to-be-addressed/

My home stability has been established.  Finally!

The judge did not find me in contempt for my blog, as I predicted.  Ha!  http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/09/02/20000/

All that barking made by John and his lawyers about my home and blog!  Other than costing a fortune in lawyer fees, it didn’t amount to dick.

So I blog onward, passing 30,000 site visits now.  I feel good about the custody hearing.  Not that I am 100 percent certain a court will grant me majority custody, but, that the future is promising.  No matter where Tesla lives, she knows her mommy will be there for her.

Always,

~P.

P.S. Judge Dorney asked how long I have been interested in writing and I answered, “I started writing in a journal in 7th grade.”  She appeared impressed.

 

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Oct 30, 2011

Who are your friends?

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Over the past three years, I have been trying to develop the ability to judge “true friends” from the “fake ass wanna be friends” that just use you for their own benefit.

Don’t you hate being fooled by those “fakes” that say the right things, at the right time then show their true colors later?  Takes any amount of respect I had for that person and flushes it right down the toilet.

I don’t fake friendship.  You either know if I like you or don’t.  When I dislike someone I pretty much block them out of my life.  Even if they are right in front of me talking, shouting, etc.  If I don’t have to utter one word, not a single breath on this person, I won’t.

I would much rather save my breath for my friends and family that I care about and they care about me.  Appreciating a true friend is so important.  My true friends have been in my life supporting me during the toughest of times.  In return, I am there for them.

I don’t need fake friends.  I especially don’t need fake friends who testify on my husband’s behalf to make me look bad.  Just so everyone knows, the truth will eventually come out and it won’t matter what John’s witnesses have been coached to say.

Fake friends apply elsewhere,

~P.

 

 

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Oct 28, 2011

Now the three week wait

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I just got home from picking up Tesla.  It was again a disaster as John said he had pumpkin carving planned and I had to wait until 5 PM to get Tesla.  It didn’t matter that we were out of court early and I could get her right after school.  He demanded he get his last hour with Tess.  Heather ordered me to “leave their property or she would call the cops.”  My response was “why are you even talking?”

I wasted an hour so John and Heather could get that last hour in so Tesla could hollow out a pumpkin and put Mr. Potato Head pieces all over it.  It was cute and  I am happy that Tesla enjoyed it, but it would have made more sense to me to wait until all 5 kids were there and just let Tess leave an hour early with her mom.  As John testified in court, I lose time with Tesla.  Her gymnastics and dance and on the days she goes back to John I don’t get my last hour.  She’s dropped off at the house and there is no sense in me driving back to Windsor for an hour.

So I have to wait 3 weeks for Judge Dorney to decide who Tesla will live with.  My lawyer feels we made our point.  The questioning process during court is very strange.  For example, John’s lawyer asked Jarrid what his Mom tattoo meant.  Jarrid explained the tattoo and in doing so impressed the Judge at how well thought out his tattoos were.

Judge Dorney also said she will decide on one parent for majority custody and feels the divorce needs to be wrapped up.  I agree.  🙂

More later,

~P.

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Oct 27, 2011

I saw it on the back of a car

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Someone sent me a message saying they saw my blogsite on a bumper sticker.  Cool!

My blog is so diverse I pick up readers from all over the world.  They don’t know me from the Man in the Moon.

I was asked in court why I blog.  I blog because I started it for school.  My personal life became a category.  So I started blogging for school and began writing about my life.  I believe I write about so many things, how can my blog about my life be such an issue?

Is it really that big a deal to write about my life?  Is it any different from having to go to court and testify about the exact same thing….my life with John?

Exactly,

~P.

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Oct 27, 2011

What sticks out in my mind

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Today has just been testimony of John and his witnesses.  LaDonna, Diane, Todd, Heather and John took the stand to testify to on John’s behalf.

I was called today also.  My lawyer and I didn’t expect that but I never know what to expect.  I testified to how John and I met.  His lawyer asked me if I felt John had used me to have a baby.  I testified “at that time I didn’t, but I do now.”

Then John testified to ending a marriage that was not broken (Diane) to be with me so he would be able to have children.  He wanted a child.

I almost started to cry.  He makes it sound like I was just a side-note.  His goal was completely centered around him.  To make a child.  Once he achieved that and found that I was not going to be able to have anymore children, he was done with me.

Our relationship ended because of his controlling personality and insistence on having everything his way.

I pray the court system sees what the real situation was.

Also, I didn’t appreciate LaDonna making it sound like I never cared for my child.  What the hell does the office manager really know about what Tesla and I did after “work hours” were done for the day?

Tomorrow Dale, Jarrid and I testify.

Sigh,

~P.

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Oct 27, 2011

Dear John~creditors called

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Dear John,

I gave up on the Roman number titles.

A creditor called and wanted to talk to me (Well, Patricia Delauter) about the Visa cards that are way overdue.  They want to offer a settlement amount on the balance.  Remember the Platinum Visa cards.  The Marriott Platinum Visa cards?  One was in the company name and we used it for business.  The other card was for personal use, for both of us.  We each had our own card.

The last things purchased on those cards were

1. Ying

2. yearly Marriott Las Vegas Timeshare

3. Groceries

 

While I still have Ying and owe money on my hairless dog, you also still owe for Ying.  Half of Ying $600.

I can’t remember what the yearly fee was but I think about a grand on each.  We have two Vegas timeshares.  One wasn’t good enough and now one of in default.  The yearly payment covered your trip to Florida.  You Tesla, Kelly and her kids used that timeshare yet I am stuck with the damn bill?

Groceries were the ones I bought, the day I came back to give you another chance.  What a waste of time that was.

So now I am going back to homework.  The creditor appreciated me updating her on my inability to settle on this credit card.  She will call back in a month.  Not that I think they would ever forget to call.

So back to painting and I’ll see you in court my future ex-hubby.

~P.

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Oct 26, 2011

2 hours at York County Courthouse

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Well, the day finally arrived.   Custody hearing was scheduled for 1:30 pm today.  This hearing was a “special hearing” and scheduled over a month ago.  So much for special.

My son Jarrid was at the courthouse at 1 pm.  Dale, Kristin, Kym and I arrived at 1:15.  My lawyer, Rob Krug was already there.  John was present and had Heather, LaDonna, Diane (first wife) and Todd (step-son) there.  I feel a bit bad that he is dragging all these people in to testify.  I said hi to Diane and Todd.  LaDonna came over and we chatted for a good while.  I hadn’t seen her wedding rings in person yet.

Well, I don’t feel bad for Heather.  Her testimony should be interesting.   Maybe John’s attorney, Doug France won’t have her testify.  I didn’t see John’s other attorney, Laurin Kearny.  She was ripped up one side and down the other by Judge Dorney during one of the previous hearing.  I found it very amusing….

There was no testimony today.  The custody hearing before ours was running way over its scheduled time.  Judge Dorney insisted we wait and finally around 3:30 pm she sent out a note rescheduling for tomorrow at 1:30 pm.  What a wasted day.  I missed classes today, will miss classes tomorrow and lose most of Friday with all this court dates.

How frustrating!  So tomorrow, John and crew will take the stand as he is the complainant.  Friday myself, Dale and Jarrid will testify.  Of course we can recall any of John’s witnesses and question John.

Will keep you posted!!

Thanks for all your messages and visits today!

Back to feeding the meters tomorrow,

~P.

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Oct 26, 2011

Like I never existed

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I wrote this ad for our website for the moving company.  Since the split up of John and I, anything that mentioned me, my work history, what I did for this company, has been DELETED.  Like I never existed.  Hmmmm!

Delauter’s A-1 Services was established in 1993 by John Delauter upon retiring from his position in corrections at York County Prison. He started the company part-time as a “jack of all trades” offering home repair, lawn care and help with moves. As years passed he realized there was more of a demand for moving help than the other services and began operating as Delauter’s A-1 Moving Helpers. Early in 2005, John purchased trucks and applied for and received a common carriers license through PA to service company moves. Realizing the demand for long-distance movers, he applied for and was granted his DOT number in October of 2006. The company really took off from this point and in May of 2007 his household goods license was approved making it a full service moving company for York and surrounding counties. This small, part-time business has grown into a fully licensed and insured household goods mover with permanent employees and full size trucks for local and long distance moves. The employees are considerate and helpful, well-trained professionals. There is no job too big or too small for Delauter’s A-1 Moving Helpers.

Look for John & his daughter Tesla Rose in the phone book under movers!

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Oct 25, 2011

Dear John~ What is your issue?

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Dear John,

What is your issue?  Because I’m just not understanding why there are so many complications with the current joint custody arrangement.

Tomorrow we go to court and a judge will decide who has Tesla’s best interest in mind.

In the meantime, it seems as though Heather has just taken over in Tesla’s life.  Examples of this are easy to see.  Writing DAD inside Tesla’s clothes clearly came from Heather.  Heather frequently has Tesla while you are away, be it work, estimates, softball, etc.  Heather volunteered in Tesla’s room without so much as a word to me first.  She writes nasty notes on Tesla’s school papers.  If I don’t request Tesla’s book bag, no one sends it out with her.  I finally had to say something to Tesla’s teacher Ms. Dettinger because I wasn’t seeing anything Tesla did in school, her letter/word ring or her reading log.  So John, what do I find today?

After requesting her bookbag again, I find inside her reading log.

Could Heather try any harder to make me look bad?

Where is DAD’s signature anywhere on this paper?  What reason would the log need to be specified at “Dad’s House”?  If the log is Sept-Oct, why the hell haven’t I seen it in Tesla’s bookbag over the past two months?

I shouldn’t have your girlfriend drama to deal with.

Court tomorrow,

~P.

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Oct 21, 2011

Ok Haters

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I’ve taken a lotta flack for past posts about my father.  I’ve upset family and friends and why?  Because I write the truth.  That’s right, the truth.

Now, someone else knows the real Walt.  A nurse from Matrix Medical Insurance called my mom to check on how she was doing.  Walt took the phone to mom who was in her room.  He couldn’t just give her the phone….he had to yell and bitch through the whole process.  Kicking her bed and questioning her on “what doctor office is this” as he handed over the phone.

The nurse was shocked.  Yes, shocked that Walt was treating his wife this way with her on the phone.  This nurse told my mom she does not have to live her life being treated this way.  Today, the nurse showed up at my parents.  Walt was at the doctors himself and the nurse questioned “oh, it’s ok for him to go to the doctor?”

After having a conversation with Mom, the nurse told her she would be reporting how mom is treated to her supervisor.  My mom should not have lived the last 40 years of her life in fear of being screamed at.  Told she is stupid.  Treated as if her sickness and bad health is her own fault.

No one deserves that type of treatment.  Just as I realized my husband was just like my dad, my mom needs to realize her health will never improve living under such stress.  When my grandmother asked me when I thought my mother would ever get better I answered with, “Probably never if she continues to live with Dad.”  Nanny didn’t have any other questions after that one and moved on to the next table at my cousin Amanda’s wedding.

My auntie Jane and uncle Ken were sitting across from me.  They weren’t surprised when I told Nanny what I thought.  Auntie Jane doesn’t really talk to me anymore.  She, along with a few other people who are basically in denial, were just SO offended by this blog  http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/05/02/are-you-a-good-mom/  I wrote this the day Walt was ready to beat Blaine’s ass.  I don’t care whose feelings get hurt.  If you don’t live with Walt, you don’t know him.  This blog has the most comments ever.  Family…. down to people I didn’t know or they didn’t say.

Wait til Walt finds this out.  (not the blog, people…the actual investigation.)  Pray for  my mom.  She is very nervous, but it’s his mouth that’s the cause.

My mom is awesome,

~P.

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