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Oct 13, 2011

My leg is hungry

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Now these are "starving legs"

It’s been a long day on campus and I am ready to hit the road.  Fall break has officially started!  Right now my head has a mild thump and if I don’t feed my leg soon, it will evolve into a full-blown headache.

Tesla coined that cute phrase, “my leg is hungry” about a month ago.  Its stuck in my head and whenever my stomach begins to growl I blame it on my empty leg.  If Tesla is really hungry she will say “both my legs are hungry” with a silly grin on her face.  She loves to crack me up with her silly sayings.

Do you and your child have any cute phrases that only the two of you understand?  Comment them to me and let everyone in on its cuteness 🙂

Walking on empty legs,

~P.

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Oct 11, 2011

Smooth, Warm and Fuzzy

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Let us all rejoice!!!

Today, the drop off and pick up of Tesla went without incident!

John wasn’t home this morning when I dropped Tesla off.  He had left at 7 a.m. to work on a moving job.  Tesla hopped out of the back of the car after giving me a kiss and hug.  Yes, the BACK seat of the car.  She begrudgingly sat in the rear after I told her it was a matter of her safety.  There was no signs of Heather outside and I was thrilled.

The pickup was just as smooth.  Heather wasn’t home that I could tell.  Tesla came out and immediately wanted to sit in the front.  John started in with “you have to sit in the back” before I could even get a word out.  I sent Tesla back into the house for her book bag.  I’m not sure why I have to ASK for her book bag, but I think it’s important that I get to look at the contents as John and Heather do.

Tesla and I stopped at Rutter’s to see her brother, Jarrid.  I got my birthday hug from Jarrid and he quizzed me on how school was going.  I find that very amusing.  I ran back out to the car and grabbed the two most recent issues of The Spartan.  He was proud of me for making the front page on both editions.  It makes me warm and fuzzy inside that my son is proud of me.

Now Tesla and I are kicked back on Dale’s couch.  Contrary to Heather’s beliefs, Dale has moved in and brought all his possessions with him.  Tesla and I have comforts now that we didn’t have before, such as a washer and dryer and a couch.  I went from having a camper mattress on the floor to having a KING SIZE bed again.  Heather sleeps on my old king size bed now.  Hope she doesn’t mind all that DNA that’s been left behind, obviously not all by me.

Well, my Spanish tutor has arrived and Tesla has a play date with Amanta.

Adios,

~P.

 

 

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Oct 10, 2011

Oh what a Happy Birthday

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I turned 41 today.  Ying turned 3.  I’m waiting for Ying to catch up to me in age.

My day started great!  Reading comments on my blog and birthday wishes on Facebook.  Dale and I left to pick up Tesla at 11:30 AM.  We arrived to get Tesla a little bit after noon.  I was disappointed that John hadn’t bothered to dress Tesla up a little bit.  When I asked her if she had pajama pants on, Heather yelled up to the car, “They’re pants!  Not pajamas!”

Pajamas or pants?

So Tesla climbed in the front seat and I fastened her seat belt over her booster seat.  Heather came up and began to inform me that I can’t let Tesla sit in the front because it is against the law.  I honestly don’t know if it IS against the law or not.  She’s about 60 lbs and the seatbelt fits her in all the right places.  Even if I am ignorant of the law, why the hell is Heather up in my grill about it?  Didn’t she learn in Child First classes that it’s not appropriate to bitch a child’s mom out in front of them?
She also informed me that Tesla’s letters were in the birthday gift bag.  I checked it out later and it’s obvious to me that HEATHER likes to add her own comments on my daughter’s school papers.
I'm certain Tesla's teacher is NOT writing me these type of notes.

Just for the record, I never received a first copy and I know I didn’t LOSS it.

My birthday gift from Tesla was a framed picture.  She is growing up sooooo fast!!

Pretty as a Rose

Yo Gabba Gabba was awesome!  Drew and Tesla loved it.  Heck, I loved it.  Dale, well he was with us and a bit confused…

I forgot my phone when we left for the show.  John called 8 times.  I’m glad I forgot my phone.

Nobody was home,

~P.

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Sep 21, 2011

Dear John XIII

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Drama

Dear John,

No, I didn’t forget that Tesla had an appointment with a counselor today.  I was under the impression a parent was to be there to fill out the paperwork, not sit in during her session.  I find it appalling that you would take Heather along and think it would be acceptable for her to sit in during the session.  I’m her mother and had no expectations or desire to invade Tesla’s private time with her counselor.  I’m GLAD the counselor made Heather leave as she had no business attending to start with.

I have an appointment next week to speak with Tesla’s counselor.  The counseling appointments are not to have a professional decide who Tesla should live with, they are to give Tesla the opportunity to talk, in private, to a third-party.  She should feel safe and free to talk about her feelings without having the concern of upsetting her parents.

The LAST person who should have shown up for this appointment is your current girlfriend.  I will share my thoughts and opinions with this counselor, as you did.  I can’t imagine that us sitting together would have accomplished anything anyway.  To date, we have yet to sit down together, alone or with a mediator, and reach any type of agreement.  Why is that?  Because, if it’s not what you want, you will not even try to reach a compromise.

Give our child some breathing room.  She has a brain, her own thoughts and opinions.  While you may not want her to voice them, she will eventually.  You may not like what she has to say, but it’s not about you.  It’s about her and her future.

Promoting freedom of thought,

~P.

P.S. As Tesla told me tonight, you are still playing softball.  What happened to Tesla being in bed at 8 PM?  That schedule you insisted we should follow….guess it doesn’t apply when you’re out having your extra curricular activities.  At 9:28 PM she still wasn’t home, much then yet in bed.  Roll your activities and the ones you have taken the liberty to enroll Tesla in, when does she have time to be a kid?  Dad plays softball, runs a business, gives estimates, (still bowling?  Playing poker?)  Tesla takes gymnastics and dance lessons.  You wanted her to take swim lessons and mentioned her taking riding lessons next month and tonight Tesla said she will be old enough to start T-ball next year.  Talk about over-filling a childs schedule!

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Sep 19, 2011

Downtown Fun

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The Rev's crazy mascot, Downtown

Watching the York Revolution’s play ball is always fun.  When possible, I take Tesla along with me.  There is a draw back to taking Tesla; I don’t get to watch much of the game.

My Doodle Bug

The playground is much more interesting to her than the men with bats trying to hit the ball.  She hates when a home run is hit and the cannon goes off.  She even asks me, at least twenty or more times during the game if it’s going to boom.  

Downtown's Web

Dale, Tesla and I went to the game Saturday night with Traci Murray and Deanna Maruski, friends of mine from Dover Highschool.  While Tesla and I were at the playground (and I was missing the game) I ran into the VanGeisen family and Tesla got to meet her cousin Colin.  I honestly don’t know if Tesla would have ever met him otherwise as I get the impression John doesn’t talk to his family much.  Last time I saw Colin he was an infant and Tesla was just a little over a year old.

Meeting her cousin Colin

 A very cool addition to the stadium is the huge Downtown bobble head.  We don’t have room for a bobble head that big but I wish they sold small ones in the gift shop.  Even better would be Downtown posters!

Super Sized
 

After quite a bit of searching we finally found Downtown in the stands.  He jumped up on the dugout for a photo with Tesla.  Dale held Tesla’s ice cream cone and she warned him if he ate it she would be really mad.

The real deal
 

We left the game while it was still tied.  The Rev’s were playing the Blue Crabs and the game was exciting but Tesla was getting tired…and so was mommy.

What a cheeser!!

 Deanna texted me later that evening that the Rev’s did win.  I wish we could have stayed but Tesla was so tired when we got home she didn’t even want to watch cartoons in her bedroom!

Go Rev’s!!!!

~P.

 
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Sep 18, 2011

Boredom Happens

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Tesla and I were painting pictures and it just didn’t seem exciting enough.  Paper after paper…and suddenly I had a flash of brilliance!  Ok, I guess it depends on what you think is brilliant, but Tesla thought my idea was THE BOMB!

Who needs paper when you have a car?

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Watercolors only,

~P.

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Sep 18, 2011

Impossible Idea, but a good one

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I was so touched by Heather’s daughter Gabby telling Tesla she wishes we could have a sleep over that an idea popped into my head! 

Since I don’t see Heather ever letting her daughter spend the night at my townhouse, how about John and Heather leave for a night and I spend the night there, enjoying time with Tesla and her possibly, future step-siblings.

Yes, I know that’s impossible, but would be fun….and is a funny thought. 

I’m also curious to what the inside of my house looks like these days. 

Endless ideas,

~P.

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Sep 17, 2011

$1.00 deal

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Dale, Tesla and I went to yards sales this morning.  Our first stop was the one Jody Riley Geiger mentioned on her Facebook status. 

Dale bought all the Transformer toys she had for his son.  Drew will be ecstatic!  Jody’s neighbor had a massive collection of Playdoh and accessories and only wanted $1.00 for all of it.  A few were dried up, but the rest were ready to play with. 

Here are a few of Tesla and my creations.

shrunk vampire head

Arms for Ears

T for Tesla

My aspiring artist

 

TT and I did this one together

 

Hippy Doh

 

 
You just can’t go wrong spending a buck on Playdoh.  Tesla and I love it!!
 
~P. 
 
P.S. The funniest part of our yard sale trip was Dale telling me I should check out all the jeans Jody had for sale.  I said “I’ll never fit into Jody Riley’s jeans!”  and Jody said, “Jody Riley doesn’t even fit into Jody’s jeans!”  Haha….that was a good one.  Even better, once we got back to the truck Dale said to me, “You should have bought a pair” and I said “Why? They would never fit” and the funny man that he is replied, “No, but then you could finally say you got in Jody’s pants!”  LMAO!!  My man is a funny one! 
If you don’t get why that funny, read this old blog…
http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/03/01/bisexual-in-middle-school/
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Sep 16, 2011

Child Innocence

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Children are so innocent.  It’s their innocence that makes them so endearing.

Today I went to Tesla’s school and joined her class for lunch.  I had pizza, carrots, raw broccoli with dip, a mini cherry pie and a diet mango tea.  That meal came to $4.65.  A bit pricey I thought but worth the cost to sit with Tesla and her friends.

As lunch time wrapped up I heard a little voice call out my name.  Heather’s daughter Gabby came bounding over with a big smile on her face.  She asked if I was going outside for recess and I told her I was.  Her next question was “Will you play with me too?”  I said, “Of course!  I’ll play with all the kids.”

We lined up to walk outside and Tesla grabbed my hand.  Gabby snuck up behind me and took my other hand and we walked out as a trio.  After trying out the monkey bars we headed to the swings and I did underdog after underdog, much to the delight of the kindergartener’s.  As they were swinging Gabby yells to Tesla “Your mom is really nice!” and Tesla responded “I told you my mom is really nice!”

I couldn’t help but smile listening to their exchange.  I also can’t help but wonder, what is being said about me that she would think I wasn’t nice.

What came next proved the innocence of children.  As the kids took turns having me push them, Gabby began introducing me to her classmates.  “This is Tesla’s mommy, and she’s my stepmom!”  Then she turned to Tesla and said, “I wish we could have a sleep over at your house.”  Little does she know she has a sleep over in my house every night she’s with her mom….

I look forward to volunteering in Tesla’s class every Friday.  It took me back to the days when I volunteered in Jarrid and Zeth’s classrooms.  A parent has to take advantage of being involved in their child’s class at this age.  Once kids hit middle school, the last thing they want to see at school is their mom or dad!

The Underdog,

~P.

P.S. Gabby and Tesla are not in the same class but apparently have lunch and recess together.  I did not know I would see Gabby today or that she would come to realize that I’m nice.  Really nice.  🙂

 

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Sep 14, 2011

Dear Heather VI

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Watch for their noses to grow!

Dear Heather,

     This morning I couldn’t help but notice for the second time, you were “home” when I drove across the county to my house and dropped Tesla off for the school bus.  When I asked John what you were doing home if you needed to leave for school at 6:30 AM, he simply replied “That’s only when she has clinicals” as if I should magically know that.

    So let me get this straight, John can’t meet me half way to exchange Tesla because he has to get your children on the bus, BUT only when you have clinicals.  It’s funny, not in the haha way, that neither of you volunteered how often you actually leave at 6:30 AM.  You and John both led me to believe you left for school every day at that time and now I find out you’re both lying once again.  Why doesn’t that surprise me?

   If you are so concerned about what’s best for Tesla, why would the two of you lie right to my face about John’s availability to meet me halfway and exchange Tesla?  The more I learn about you, the more I realize you and John are perfect for each other.  I could never pull off the expert lying the two of you have perfected as a couple.  There should be a contest for liar couples!   Maybe you don’t think of it as lying, but stretching the truth or just telling a half truth.  Either way, in my book it’s lying and when this all goes to court and the lying starts on the stand, a judge will see right through the both of you.

You can lie now, but the truth will come out eventually.

~P.

 

 

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