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Aug 21, 2011

Dear Heather III

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Dear Heather,

      Now that you are giving your opinion on my life, I wanted to drop you a quick note.  You are really hung up on the fact that John and I are still married.  Well, that makes two of us.  Do you understand the reason why he is not moving forward with the divorce?  If you don’t, let me spell it out for you.

M O N E Y

Yes, it’s all about money now.  See in Pennsylvania when two people divorce it’s 50/50.  That’s fifty percent of the assets and fifty percent of the debt.  John and I own a house and business together.  John doesn’t see it that way, but in reality, it’s true.  While the business is still up and running (amazing….I credit LaDonna for that) I don’t receive any income other than the roughly $170.00 deposited into my child support and alimony fund every other week.

I’m not remaining married to John to continue getting alimony.  That $52 a month is pathetic when you consider he just made $17,000 in payments over three months to the mortgage company.  He doesn’t want to move forward with the divorce BECAUSE he would rather just keep all our income for himself.

The most important thing in John’s life is money.  “It’s all about making the donuts” is his favorite phrase.  I never felt the need to throw around money or act like I’m better than others because our business was successful.  People drifted out of my life because they couldn’t deal with hearing the constant banter about money coming  from my husband’s mouth.

I really don’t have an issue with you Heather.  I think you need to butt out when it comes to custody and divorce because you don’t have any say in it.  I see you as just another victim to the “wolf in sheep’s clothing.”  You’ll realize this one day.

Until then….baaah baaah,

~P.

 

 

 

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Aug 16, 2011

A day in court

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Just when I think the worst is over, I’m wrong.  WRONG!  WRONG! WRONG!

Court today was incredibly stressful as I was run through the gamut.  The proceedings  were certainly lively as Judge Dorney spent a lot of time yelling at John Ott, John Delauter and John’s lawyer, Lauren Kearney.  At one point she threatened to find John’s lawyer in contempt if she didn’t move on to the point at hand.

Basically, because I moved to West York and couldn’t give 90 days notice, I was in contempt.  I didn’t drag him into court every time he had someone move into our house with him.  I didn’t drag him into court when he was living with Kelly and refused to give me the address.  And finally, I didn’t drag him into court when he moved Heather into our house with her children.  Maybe I should have….

In the judges closing statement she said something like “If this were to be decided by a parents attitude, Mr. Delauter would lose.  He has a bad attitude.”  Everyone there already knew that fact.

Who wants to live with someone that has a bad attitude? 

~P.

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Aug 16, 2011

Big John

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Tess and I had been playing this game she found at a yard sale called Big John.  For fifty cents she now owns a big plastic toilet and little green “scuzzies” as the icky germs.  She thinks this game is a riot and I admit it is cute and silly.

We are enjoying our morning and time together.  She has no idea that later today Mom has to go to the courthouse and testify why she should live with me.  It is scary having the future decided for you by a complete stranger. 

Last night my future ex came up to my car at the top of the driveway of our home.  I was waiting for Tesla to get in, but Ying had jumped out the window so she was “fetching him.”  John had a razor tool in his hand, the kind you scrape paint, tape, etc off of something.  He was flicking the blade in and out and my eyes were glued on the knife.  I was on the verge of asking if he was trying to intimidate me when he said, “My lawyer said to offer you this.  If you let Tess live here at the house and go to school from here, I will never ask you for child support.”

I responded, “No, I’d rather a judge decide.”

Maybe he expects me to be rich someday,

~P.

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Aug 14, 2011

Dear Heather II

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Dear Heather,

    We were overdue for a short note.  I haven’t written in a while and I apologize.  You have started to grow on me and not in the fungus kind of way that may sound.  On Saturday I had Tesla so you and John could attend those parenting classes, Kids First.  What did you think? 

    I’m growing curious about you I guess, as time drags on with this divorce.  John says you two met in January of this year.  I think it was more like February but he may have been dating several people at once.  If you are really going to stick around, long term in my daughter’s life I would like to know more about you.  We chit chat and are at least on speaking terms now.  Friday night Tesla and I made brownies and I sent two in one package for you and John and Tess had her own package.  John said he ate his, did you enjoy yours?  Ying actually ate John’s first brownie and I had to wrap up another special one for him for Tesla.

   Anyway, back to getting to know each other as we both spend with my daughter.  I seriously am working on knowing all your children through my daughter and the little things Tesla and your girls make.  Tesla for the most part enjoys their company.  She also enjoys daycare and now these gymnastic lessons John is taking all our daughters to. 

   Let me ask you Heather, aren’t you ready for this divorce to just be over?  Are you ready to get on with your life, even get married to my husband?  I know I’ve met someone I really enjoy spending time with and I want to move on with my life.  Or are you ok with this divorce limbo situation because you’re living in my house, enjoying the fruits of my business?

   Probably see you tomorrow,

~P.

 

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Aug 8, 2011

Dear John VIIII

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Catching up with the wagon

 

Dear John,

I had a free moment to look over the balances of our mortgages.  Way to freaking go with making up those payments.  It’s like a freaking miracle occurred!  I’m familiar with miracles as I’ve experienced many in my life.  Some are great, some are good and some just don’t affect me, but are amazing none the less.

So Wells Fargo has backed off with the foreclosure notices.  Sweeeeeeet news!!  I’m feeling good about not getting all the notices of for coming doom in the ownership of our house.  This means things are going good in life for you, at this time, and that makes Tess happy, which makes me happy.

What’s not going to make me happy is if your income doesn’t show the realistic figures to match having the ability to make these payments.  You know what I mean dear.  That problem I tried to tell you about again and again.  The numbers need to make sense.

If you are making enough to pay almost $17,000.00 to our mortgage companies in 3 months, the numbers better add up because my forensic account, Helen O’Planick is patiently waiting to testify about your bookkeeping methods.

Anyway, great job John!!!

Now about those payments on the four-wheelers, credit cards, and Mercedes loan…..

Just touching base with you and Wells Fargo,

~P.

 

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Aug 6, 2011

subpoena

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Subpoena- the usual writ for the summoning of witnesses or the submission of evidence, as records or documents, before a court or other deliberative body.

I hear people are getting subpoenas to my custody hearing.  I find it strange that one person who is being summoned only knew me for about a month and a half.  This should really be interesting.  What he can say that has any relevance to me as a fit mother?

So I’m thinking, who should I have come testify on my behalf?  My sister Suz, my son Jarrid or Zeth, my parents, relatives, friends, etc.  Who should I consider to subpoena as to the character of my daughter’s father?  John’s first wife?  Numerous girlfriends?  His family?  Our employees, old and current?

Will people lie on the stand?  It’s happened in the past…

Waiting for court,

~P.

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Aug 5, 2011

Dear John VIII

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Dear John,

   We just spoke moments ago, but I feel the need to write you.  I give you credit for being active in Tesla’s life.  I even let you keep her extra days so you can take her places and do things that I can’t afford.  Thanks for letting me know she is taking gymnastics and that you are paying for it.  That’s awesome for Tess!  I will gladly take her on my Wednesday nights.

    What upsets me is your statement during our phone conversation.  “I am telling you Tesla will be going to school at Eastern.”  Another thing that upsets me is all the drama you are causing in my family and with my former room mate John Ott.  I realize you want my family to testify for you and John Ott also.  What I don’t get is what the heck are you trying to prove?

Just let a judge decide,

~P.

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Aug 5, 2011

Dear Suz

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She gots dem big eyez, ya?

Hey G, my sista!  How you doing with those big eyes?  All up in the camera!

What are we going to do with you?  You need to find somewhere to live.  If mom and dad actually find someone who wants to buy the house, you more than likely will need to move.  Maybe the new buyers would let you stay if you paid rent.  You never know, stranger things have happened.  Like me meeting Dale, for example.

There is always the possibility of moving back into the house with mom and dad if their house doesn’t sell and they don’t move to Shippensburg or somewhere else equally as ridiculous.

I can’t believe dad wants to move mom so far away from us.  Mom is going to be miserable alone.  I also can’t believe that dad is talking to my future ex-husband.  What the hell?  They both know I am a good mom to Tesla.  My sons will testify to that!

Ugh….I’m so sick of all the drama with 2 Johns and our dad.  Get over themselves already!

Love ya sista!

~P.

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Jul 31, 2011

Dear John VII

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Dear John,

  Today is Zeth’s birthday!  I doubt you remembered that.   I already sent him a birthday note in Facebook.  Do you remember what happened on this day two years ago?  Let me remind you!

   I woke up in the hospital after swallowing multiple prescription pills the day before.  You were screaming at me that day about the business.   To make you happy I began to swallow my pills, followed by a swig of orange juice.  You did say “knock it off Pattie” while I did this, but made no attempt to stop me.  In fact, you even said, “now you’ll never see your daughter” and I realized you weren’t going to stop me from taking the meds.  This was the easy way for you.  Just let me off myself. 

   Once that light went off in my head, I stopped on my own.   The lights grew dim as the pills kicked in and I couldn’t find that damn syrup to make me barf.  Ipecac Syrup I think it’s called.  You had  got some for Diane the night she tried to exit out of your life.

   So I wake up in a hospital bed and tell my doctors what happened and why.  They believed me when I said I would never kill myself and did not need to go to the Psych ward.  They released me but I grew impatient for the discharge papers.  Finally I just left, feeling like an escaped prisoner.  Lisa Vannatta picked me up in the pouring down rain.  I was soaking wet after slipping on road, trying to jump a puddle in bedroom slippers.  I still had on my pajamas from the morning before the blow up.  Lisa thought I was crazy for wanting to go back to my house but it was Zeth’s birthday party.  I couldn’t miss the party I threw and Lisa was already on her way there anyway!

Boy did you have a look of surprise on your face when I walked into the house.  The party was already started but my entrance stopped the show.  Everyone was happy to see me alive and well, in the flesh.  Everyone but you!

Tomorrow marks two years since we officially split up.  Get on with this divorce PLEASE!

It’s true and ya know it,

~P.

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Jul 30, 2011

Limitless

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He is hunky

LIMITLESS

Based on the book “The Dark Fields”

This was a movie about a writer who takes a clear pill and in 30 seconds this pill gives him the ability to “know what to do” in his life to survive.  Eddie began taking these pills and always knew what to do next…eventually by taking more he could predict the future.  Eddie was one funny guy, and the movie was excellent.  Actor,  Robert DeNiro really added to the intensity of the flick.

I related to Eddie struggling to survive and liked how he felt free to achieve.  Of course, that was a movie.  🙂  He jumped off a cliff somewhere in the world (well, a stunt double did) and suddenly knew what he wanted to in his life and who to do it with.  I won’t be jumping any cliffs.  Parasailing and jumping out of a perfectly good airplane was enough on my bucket list.

There are so many things I want to achieve in life.  Raising my daughter is most important right now.  I’m thrilled how things are going with Dale and Tesla really likes him too.  I guess Dale and John will have to meet soon.  Whenever John brings it up, he is welcome to meet Dale.  I prefer this over John calling Dale or showing up at Dale’s business.  John is known for doing these sorts of things.  I recommend hanging up on John actually, but I’m sure some people want to talk to him.

Anyway, the movie was great.  Watch it if you get a chance.

Still waiting….limitlessly, for a divorce.

~P.

 

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