Just a girl writing in the blogging ring
DAD..MOM..TM?
I sent a text to John:
Now I am really confused bout TT clothes. What does TM mean?
John didn’t respond, but I asked a couple of my friends what they thought.
Their responses:
Tesla’s Mom and Trademark.
Any other thoughts until I can get this explained. I just don’t follow Heather’s logic.
Total Malarkey,
~P.
Dear Heather,
Since having a conversation with you or John is impossible, I will address this problem with a letter.
What exactly is the reasoning behind Tesla not being allowed to take her book bag home when I pick her up? Even if YOU did pay for it, isn’t it still Tesla’s? Or did you write Heather King on the inside and I missed it?
Why does Tesla have “special clothes” that she can only wear while visiting her dad? Are your children wearing the same clothes as Tesla? Is there confusion with all the handwritten “Dad” and “Mom” on the tags? http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/02/21/obsessed-with-everything/
Your actions and refusal to allow Tesla her belongings has an effect on Tesla and shows how pathetic you are in trying to control MY daughter’s life.
If Tesla owns something, whether it is clothing, book bag, toys etc. she should be able to have her belongings with her no matter which home she is at.
You don’t own my child.
~P.
Well, the day finally arrived. Custody hearing was scheduled for 1:30 pm today. This hearing was a “special hearing” and scheduled over a month ago. So much for special.
My son Jarrid was at the courthouse at 1 pm. Dale, Kristin, Kym and I arrived at 1:15. My lawyer, Rob Krug was already there. John was present and had Heather, LaDonna, Diane (first wife) and Todd (step-son) there. I feel a bit bad that he is dragging all these people in to testify. I said hi to Diane and Todd. LaDonna came over and we chatted for a good while. I hadn’t seen her wedding rings in person yet.
Well, I don’t feel bad for Heather. Her testimony should be interesting. Maybe John’s attorney, Doug France won’t have her testify. I didn’t see John’s other attorney, Laurin Kearny. She was ripped up one side and down the other by Judge Dorney during one of the previous hearing. I found it very amusing….
There was no testimony today. The custody hearing before ours was running way over its scheduled time. Judge Dorney insisted we wait and finally around 3:30 pm she sent out a note rescheduling for tomorrow at 1:30 pm. What a wasted day. I missed classes today, will miss classes tomorrow and lose most of Friday with all this court dates.
How frustrating! So tomorrow, John and crew will take the stand as he is the complainant. Friday myself, Dale and Jarrid will testify. Of course we can recall any of John’s witnesses and question John.
Will keep you posted!!
Thanks for all your messages and visits today!
Back to feeding the meters tomorrow,
~P.
Dear John,
What is your issue? Because I’m just not understanding why there are so many complications with the current joint custody arrangement.
Tomorrow we go to court and a judge will decide who has Tesla’s best interest in mind.
In the meantime, it seems as though Heather has just taken over in Tesla’s life. Examples of this are easy to see. Writing DAD inside Tesla’s clothes clearly came from Heather. Heather frequently has Tesla while you are away, be it work, estimates, softball, etc. Heather volunteered in Tesla’s room without so much as a word to me first. She writes nasty notes on Tesla’s school papers. If I don’t request Tesla’s book bag, no one sends it out with her. I finally had to say something to Tesla’s teacher Ms. Dettinger because I wasn’t seeing anything Tesla did in school, her letter/word ring or her reading log. So John, what do I find today?
After requesting her bookbag again, I find inside her reading log.
Could Heather try any harder to make me look bad?
Where is DAD’s signature anywhere on this paper? What reason would the log need to be specified at “Dad’s House”? If the log is Sept-Oct, why the hell haven’t I seen it in Tesla’s bookbag over the past two months?
I shouldn’t have your girlfriend drama to deal with.
Court tomorrow,
~P.
Let us all rejoice!!!
Today, the drop off and pick up of Tesla went without incident!
John wasn’t home this morning when I dropped Tesla off. He had left at 7 a.m. to work on a moving job. Tesla hopped out of the back of the car after giving me a kiss and hug. Yes, the BACK seat of the car. She begrudgingly sat in the rear after I told her it was a matter of her safety. There was no signs of Heather outside and I was thrilled.
The pickup was just as smooth. Heather wasn’t home that I could tell. Tesla came out and immediately wanted to sit in the front. John started in with “you have to sit in the back” before I could even get a word out. I sent Tesla back into the house for her book bag. I’m not sure why I have to ASK for her book bag, but I think it’s important that I get to look at the contents as John and Heather do.
Tesla and I stopped at Rutter’s to see her brother, Jarrid. I got my birthday hug from Jarrid and he quizzed me on how school was going. I find that very amusing. I ran back out to the car and grabbed the two most recent issues of The Spartan. He was proud of me for making the front page on both editions. It makes me warm and fuzzy inside that my son is proud of me.
Now Tesla and I are kicked back on Dale’s couch. Contrary to Heather’s beliefs, Dale has moved in and brought all his possessions with him. Tesla and I have comforts now that we didn’t have before, such as a washer and dryer and a couch. I went from having a camper mattress on the floor to having a KING SIZE bed again. Heather sleeps on my old king size bed now. Hope she doesn’t mind all that DNA that’s been left behind, obviously not all by me.
Well, my Spanish tutor has arrived and Tesla has a play date with Amanta.
Adios,
~P.
Heather, you get on my nerves. Thank God I am experienced at blocking out the annoying people. I started practicing that in middle school, actively blocking out my father’s constant barking.
I don’t understand why you have to keep butting into my business. If I’m not doing something correctly, the ONLY person who should say anything to me is my husband. You know, that man you live with. Have you become his mouth piece? Anyone who knows John will vouch that he is a man who loves to talk. He will blab away to anyone about anything.
So why is he all tongued-tied now? Does he send you up to my car with instructions on what to say to me? Do you do all the talking these days? I know you do all the note writing as the errors make that clear. You may actually write better than John though. Scary thought….
Do me a favor, keep fixing up those flower beds and making my house look pretty. That kind of stuff helps the house sell. I’m willing to bet it’s your money being spent on this make-over. Tammy Zech once redid the flower beds at my house. Kelly Liek did too. Kelly dropped about $10,000 into remodeling my house and what did she get for it? Cheated on. Neither the flowers or the girlfriends lastest very long.
We don’t need to speak. If you MUST speak to me, do so when Tesla is not present. For example, at gymnastics. Last week you spent about half your time sitting with your daughter and the other half chatting it up with some dude. You told him at the end of class it was nice talking to him. I was sitting there the whole time, yet not once did you say “Pattie could we talk for a moment while the girls are practicing?” The dude was good-looking, I agree. I bet if John had been at gymnastics instead of playing ball, you wouldn’t have been so friendly with another man. That is a big no-no.
Also, if you are going to call me a bitch, you should refer to me as The Bitch.
Tick Tock goes your clock,
~P.
I turned 41 today. Ying turned 3. I’m waiting for Ying to catch up to me in age.
My day started great! Reading comments on my blog and birthday wishes on Facebook. Dale and I left to pick up Tesla at 11:30 AM. We arrived to get Tesla a little bit after noon. I was disappointed that John hadn’t bothered to dress Tesla up a little bit. When I asked her if she had pajama pants on, Heather yelled up to the car, “They’re pants! Not pajamas!”
Pajamas or pants?
Just for the record, I never received a first copy and I know I didn’t LOSS it.
My birthday gift from Tesla was a framed picture. She is growing up sooooo fast!!
Yo Gabba Gabba was awesome! Drew and Tesla loved it. Heck, I loved it. Dale, well he was with us and a bit confused…
I forgot my phone when we left for the show. John called 8 times. I’m glad I forgot my phone.
Nobody was home,
~P.
Dear Heather,
How are things going honey? I get the impression, “it’s not been all that great.”
I feel for ya. Been there, done that. Plus all your children, each affected by you moving in with John. My sons eventually, were just disgusted with me for trying to get things right, but not living up to John’s standards.
You feeling secure in your relationship with my husband? ‘Cause if you are, you really need to rethink that one. Your moving into my house, with children so quickly, just shows me how little you know John.
Just what I’m thinking these days. Words get around.
Don’t get to cozy…I know John.
Good Luck!
~P.
Drama
Dear John,
No, I didn’t forget that Tesla had an appointment with a counselor today. I was under the impression a parent was to be there to fill out the paperwork, not sit in during her session. I find it appalling that you would take Heather along and think it would be acceptable for her to sit in during the session. I’m her mother and had no expectations or desire to invade Tesla’s private time with her counselor. I’m GLAD the counselor made Heather leave as she had no business attending to start with.
I have an appointment next week to speak with Tesla’s counselor. The counseling appointments are not to have a professional decide who Tesla should live with, they are to give Tesla the opportunity to talk, in private, to a third-party. She should feel safe and free to talk about her feelings without having the concern of upsetting her parents.
The LAST person who should have shown up for this appointment is your current girlfriend. I will share my thoughts and opinions with this counselor, as you did. I can’t imagine that us sitting together would have accomplished anything anyway. To date, we have yet to sit down together, alone or with a mediator, and reach any type of agreement. Why is that? Because, if it’s not what you want, you will not even try to reach a compromise.
Give our child some breathing room. She has a brain, her own thoughts and opinions. While you may not want her to voice them, she will eventually. You may not like what she has to say, but it’s not about you. It’s about her and her future.
Promoting freedom of thought,
~P.
P.S. As Tesla told me tonight, you are still playing softball. What happened to Tesla being in bed at 8 PM? That schedule you insisted we should follow….guess it doesn’t apply when you’re out having your extra curricular activities. At 9:28 PM she still wasn’t home, much then yet in bed. Roll your activities and the ones you have taken the liberty to enroll Tesla in, when does she have time to be a kid? Dad plays softball, runs a business, gives estimates, (still bowling? Playing poker?) Tesla takes gymnastics and dance lessons. You wanted her to take swim lessons and mentioned her taking riding lessons next month and tonight Tesla said she will be old enough to start T-ball next year. Talk about over-filling a childs schedule!
Watch for their noses to grow!
Dear Heather,
This morning I couldn’t help but notice for the second time, you were “home” when I drove across the county to my house and dropped Tesla off for the school bus. When I asked John what you were doing home if you needed to leave for school at 6:30 AM, he simply replied “That’s only when she has clinicals” as if I should magically know that.
So let me get this straight, John can’t meet me half way to exchange Tesla because he has to get your children on the bus, BUT only when you have clinicals. It’s funny, not in the haha way, that neither of you volunteered how often you actually leave at 6:30 AM. You and John both led me to believe you left for school every day at that time and now I find out you’re both lying once again. Why doesn’t that surprise me?
If you are so concerned about what’s best for Tesla, why would the two of you lie right to my face about John’s availability to meet me halfway and exchange Tesla? The more I learn about you, the more I realize you and John are perfect for each other. I could never pull off the expert lying the two of you have perfected as a couple. There should be a contest for liar couples! Maybe you don’t think of it as lying, but stretching the truth or just telling a half truth. Either way, in my book it’s lying and when this all goes to court and the lying starts on the stand, a judge will see right through the both of you.
You can lie now, but the truth will come out eventually.
~P.
girlboxer1970 