To Write Love on Her Arms

Jamie Tworkowski

Choose not to be alone.

Jamie Tworkowski spoke on campus about his non-profit movement known as “To Write Love on Her Arms” (TWLOHA) and just for kicks, he brought along his friend and musician Anthony Raneri of Bayside.  The tickets were a twofer; something you get two at once, Jamie and Anthony appearing on one stage.

If you went to the presentation, you know exactly what TWLOHA is and if you didn’t go, read the previous issue of The Spartan.  What I want to write about is Mr. Tworkowski as an individual.

If I had to describe Tworkowski with one word it would be “cool.” He is so cool you want to know him.  He came in and spilled his guts about his life. Carefree, surfer dude type of guy. He had a nice job with a big racing company and he quit to raise awareness of depression, suicide, self injury, addiction, and all the “stuff” people are afraid to talk about. Twork (my nickname for him) said, “People need other people to help us carry the weight of life.”

Twork was a guy that made the audience think “slacker.”  He admitted he was a slacker and was amazed himself when he landed a dream job with Quicksilver followed by Hurley.   He experienced two life changing events.  A friend, Renee needed support while she came down from drug use.  Twork recorded five days with her in written form.  Following her admittance to rehab, Twork shared his story about just being there for her as a friend.  He also had an associate at work commit suicide and this prompted him to make a difference in people’s lives.  Twork is one hell of a guy and brutally honest.  He said, “People are afraid of what response we are met with when we talk about stuff.  Suicide prevention is in knowing others are out there that care.”

These were wise words for a college drop-out, surfer dude.  He dressed to blend in on campus and I estimate he is in his early thirties now.  While he didn’t encourage dropping out of college, he did open my eyes at how much of an impact this dorky guy had through the internet.  I don’t think Twork would mind if I called him dorky.  He seemed to know he is goofy and it is a very charming trait for someone who has taken up public speaking.  Twork made the sound-system squeal, he didn’t pay much attention to his surroundings and I noticed his habit of taking the lid off his water and putting it back on without taking a sip.  A nervous reaction I suppose.  He also would go off on a tangent and forget what he was talking about.  I’m not sure how he manages to squeeze so much humor into such a sad topic but dude pulled it off.  Twork is just an average joe who was there for a friend in need and kicked off what has become a world-wide support system.  He believes, “you are born to be known and your uniqueness is priceless.”  His message is of hope and that help is real and I believed in his message.  Everyone in the room believed in his message and that is why he is successful as what he does.

someone’s gotta earn the money there

Letters he nevers learn from

Dear John,

Thank you for making the effort to be human today.  I was very upset with you for not making arrangements for Tesla to leave school with me.  It’s bad enough I am no longer “authorized” to pick up my child.  I just don’t grasp your need to tell the school I can never pick up Tesla without your permission.  It seems just a bit extreme to me.  Do you think I’m going to take off in my 92 Ford Accord with highly visible bumper sticker and windshield sticker announcing  “GIRLBOXER1970” and make a run for the Mexican border with Tesla?  Seriously, get a grip.  When Tesla tells me she doesn’t see me enough I respond with, “I agree.  I don’t see you enough either honey, but right now, there isn’t much Mommy can do right now.  I promise to keep working on it.”

Regardless, it was nice to see you realized the error in your ways and made it right.  I just don’t think I should have to beg/guilt you into letting me see her.  I hope this could become a habit for you, sharing our daughter.  Perhaps then your daughter wouldn’t beg me to keep her when I do get to see her.

Finally, don’t jump my throat about Tesla’s homework.  YOU are responsible to check her homework.  This is the third or fourth time she did not have her name on her paper.  You say she did and you saw her write it, yet magically it was not there today.  I don’t need to hear your snide remarks when all I said was “Tesla’s name wasn’t on her homework.”  I also will pass on hearing how you have to go work on jobs now cause “somebody has to earn some money around here.”  What the hell does that have to do with me?  Tell your girlfriend who’s been trying to get a nursing degree for the past 10 years and can’t seem to graduate, to get a job.  Hopefully very little spelling is involved in being a nurse.

I realize you think you’re perfect.  I’m thrilled when you realize you’re not.

Next time, please take care of the note in advance.  I always give you amble notice when I would like to get Tesla, yet you wait until the last-minute to respond.  I sadly have to call block my cell number just so you will answer.  That is just petty.  I take your calls even though I can’t stand to hear your voice.

Man up and take mine!

~P.

PS. Please wash Tesla’s purple jacket.  It is filthy.

Headache Hell

Last night, after three days of being sick, I wound up in the ER at York Hospital.

I had stopped losing fluids at both ends but I guess I didn’t replenish water fast enough.

Suddenly, I had the headache from hell around 2 AM.  I literally had my hands grasping my head because it felt like my head would explode.

9 hours later, 1 CAT scan, fluids, morphine and a lumbar tap I was released.

No signs of problems from the tests.

I still had a headache.

Damn!

~P.

Don’t feed the animal

You were warned

Picture I came across from 2001.  Rated PG.  LOL

~P.

 

 

Kid, cat and a chainsaw

Blaine & Emily

This is a cute picture of Blaine looking out the sliding glass door at my cat Emily.  Blaine was just three years old I believe.  He thought Emily was so pretty.  I don’t know where Emily is anymore.  John called the SPCA to come take her  and Tesla’s cat Sparky, away.  He claimed they were strays.  Disposable cats, just like dogs in John’s world.

Later that day, John took Blaine outside with him.  John decide to trim the sumac trees.  He accidentally bumped Blaine in the back of the head with the chainsaw.

Thank God it was not engaged.

Blaine will forever be missing hair and have a scar where Uncle John almost cut off his head.

~P.

 

Why the parking lot at Dover Valley is always empty

// // //       Ate there one time.  Never returned.  Restaurant Impossible needed in Dover, PA.                                                                                              //

State     health inspections for Feb. 23

Daily Record/Sunday     News

Updated: 02/23/2012     11:51:30 AM EST

— Dover Valley     Restaurant, Dover Township.

Violations:

— The person in charge     does not have adequate knowledge of food safety in the restaurant as     evidenced by this non-compliant inspection.

— During the     inspection, the inspector spotted an open employee’s beverage container in     a food preparation and a can opener and slicer that each had food residue     and was not clean to sight and touch.

— A food handler     touched a raw hamburger with gloves and did not remove the gloves and wash     his hands.

— Raw beef stored over     ready to eat foods.

— All refrigerator     door handles are not clean to sight and touch.

— 0 PPM sanitizer in     the wiping cloth bucket.

— Flour used to bread     raw chicken has clumps and not being sifted every four hours to remove the     clumps.

— Wiping cloth     sanitizer level was more than 500 PPM.

Food observed thawing     at room temperature on the back table, which is not an approved     thawingmethod.

— Observed wet wiping     cloths not being store in sanitizer solution.

Company comment:     Company could not be reached for comment.

 

Cuestionario de looner

Por favor, copie y pegue en un documento de correo electrónico o palabra. Un correo electrónico a pcrider@ycp.edu.
Nombre o Alias:
Género:
Edad:
Ocupación:
¿Qué edad encontraste que te gustó globos?
¿A qué edad globos hizo parte del sexo para usted?
¿Es este fetiche compartido con su significant other?
¿Por qué o por qué no?
¿¿Revelan su fetiche de la familia? ¿Amigos?
¿Qué pasa con globos ¿te encontrar atractivo?
¿Cómo se involucran globos en una experiencia sexual?
¿Encontrar otros objetos que pueden contener aire estimulante? (guantes de látex, condones, etc.).
¿Son sexualmente estimulada sólo por el espectáculo de los globos? (en una fiesta tradicional)
¿Tamaño, la forma o el color del globo hace una diferencia?
¿Son globos de helio globos regulares de soplado más atractivo?
¿Si un globo tiene un globo dentro, que es más estimulante?
¿Prefiere volar globos o inflar con helio?
¿Alguna vez rellena globos con algo distinto de aire? (agua, arena, mayonesa, jugo de pickle)
¿Son los globos Plata (florete) atractivo?
¿Tienes una memoria específica de globo desde la infancia? ¿Bueno o malo?
¿Te gusta pop globos?
¿Obtener conectado a los globos y odio cuando ellos pop?
¿Tienes un momento favorito looner?
¿En su opinión hay cualquier daño en un fetiche de globo? (Físicamente, psicológicamente, etc.)
¿Lo que otros piensan de Looners?
¿Siendo un Looner tiene algún efecto sobre sus relaciones con los demás?
¿Que encontró que la actividad más agradable con un globo? (oler, sentir, estático, apareciendo el sonido, etc.).
Cualquier otro comentario por favor escriba tanto como le gustaría.
¡Gracias!
Pattie Crider
York College de PA

Vegas Strip

It’s 2 AM and I’m not real sleepy.  I’ve been sleeping off food poisoning for the past two days.

My friend Laurie has me hooked on Angry Birds on Facebook.  Laurie doesn’t know she started me on this version.  I think my sister Suz was the first to show me Angry Birds.  Thanks Suz,  I think.

While I’m playing, this show Vegas Strip is on tv.  It’s a reality show in Vegas following the police.  I am half paying attention.  I’ve been to Vegas several times with John and it is certainly an amazing city.

A police officer pulls over a truck that was driving slowly beside a woman, thinking hooker/jon.  She was actually the man’s wife and didn’t want to get in the truck with him because she was so pissed off.  He had lost $200 at a casino and she was irate and drunk.  I started to pay closer attention to the tv because it made me think of the time in Vegas that John lost $1000 in one hand of cards.  I was also irate, just not drunk.

The female officer was talking to the wife and told her she had a right to be mad at him.  The wife said, “My husband say, get in the truck, they think I’m hookering.”  The female officer giggled at that.

Next the wife said, “I know it’s not going to work with him.  I love him but I hate him.”  Wow, I could so relate to what this woman was saying.  The female officer asked why stay and she gave the classic answer, “for our kids.  Sixteen years with that man.”

There were no charges filed against wife and hubby.  The female officer looked genuinely concerned for the wife while the male officer encouraged her to kiss and make up with her husband.  The husband made his wife feel guilty and convinced her to give him a kiss and get in the truck.  As the couple drove away the male officer said, “They kissed and made up, a happy ending after all.”  The female officer looked at him like he was crazy.

Now, I can’t imagine being in a relationship with John anymore.  Why?  Because I loved him, but I didn’t like him.  How does that make sense?  I don’t know.

He just can’t guilt me anymore.

~P.

Maybe it’s just me

but I doubt it.

 

I believe I have a right to be pissed off that the mortgage I hold with my husband is once again way behind.

He doesn’t have to pay child support or alimony anymore.  He apparently has plenty of money to go on vacation, buy another ATV, build all kinds of wooden structures in our back yard, redesign the inside of our house, redo the landscape of our property, enroll 4 kids in gymnastics at $44 each a month…I could go on, but the point is clear.

His girlfriend still gets alimony and child support….and welfare assistance while living in my house that is behind AGAIN in payments.

I take out school loans to make my rent.  Maybe Heather needs to hurry up and take out a school loan to make my house payments.  John’s explantion in court regarding his ability to come up with $15,000 to keep the house from foreclosured last year  just didn’t make sense.  He said he sold some stuff.  What the fuck is he selling to come up with $15k?  Telling Judge Dorney he had the mortgages current was bullshit and her believing him without making him prove it just shows how bad she screwed up.  The mortgage hasn’t been current since I lived there with John.

I get very little time with my child, yet the bitch living in my house sees Tesla like she is her mother.   I don’t see that Heather is even talented at taking care of her own children.  Just my opinion, of course.

Like I said, maybe it’s just me.  I have been sick for the past 12 hours.  Food poisoning I think and thank God I’m feeling better.

I’ve asked to see Tesla over and over.  My requests fall on deaf ears.  It’s all about John’s need to feel he is in control.

Divorce wanted,

~P.

 

Scheduled Control

What is scheduled control?

When a person (A) in power feels he or she must strictly schedule another persons (B) day.   The amount of power held by A varies, depending on the relationship held with B.

For Example:

1.  John (A) has a large amount of power over Tesla (B) because A is the father of B and has a court order that A believes empowers him to:

a. Rigidly set B a schedule that allows very small amounts of personal time for B to make a choice in how her time is spent.

b. Making a schedule for B that is so vague it is clear A is exercising coercive power to avoid allowing B the opportunity to make a choice in how her time is spent.

2.  John (A) has a large amount of power over Pattie (C) because A is the husband of C and B is the daughter of A and C.

a.  Majority of  attempts by C to contact  A results in continual avoidance of answering the text messages, email and phone calls.

b. A regularly asserts power over B and C by changing the schedule of B at a moments notice to cause distress to C.

3.  Pattie (C) will in time, have a large amount of power over C because eventually A is going to fuck up so bad that B will be disgusted by his pathetic attempt to control her schedule.

a. Result hypothesis:  A and C= Happy    B=Sad

THAT is what scheduled control is!

~P.

P.S.  Yes, I wrote all that myself.  A little bit of psych, a little bit of human communication and a large dose of controlling personalities.   Maybe “scheduled control” will become a new psychology term.  I didn’t bother to look if it might be one already.  🙂