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Oct 27, 2011

Stressful Morning

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I went to Spanish class this morning only because I had a test. The professora had multiple errors on the exam and on the answer sheet. I became so frustrated and overwhelmed I could not think or write in Spanish. As time ran out and I was the only student still writing my brain completely shut down. I had answers written on the exam and on the answer sheet.
Seriously, I could not focus. Even though I studied for a couple HOURS the night before, I know I did not do well.

All this stress and drama with court is hurting my grades. I can’t concentrate for shit with custody court happening this afternoon.

I went to my religions professor to tell her I wouldn’t be in class this afternoon because of court. I couldn’t hold back my tears and wound up crying in her office. Professor Shusko was very sympathetic and said “go ahead and cry. better to get it out now than later.”

I did get a grip finally and talked to another professor about Literature class. Dr. Seigal said not to worry about missing class today. He said to focus on court and no matter what happens, things will work out.

Bless the understanding professors at YCP!

Frustrated but hanging in,
~P.

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Sep 30, 2011

Dear John XIIII

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All hail the king!

Dear John,

I met with my lawyer today.  We had a 45 minute talk about the upcoming hearing.  Most of it consisted of me going over our past.  That just sucks, recalling all those memories.

My lawyer feels confident that I have nothing to be concerned about.  Not that we will arrive in court unprepared.  I don’t find that the courts necessarily get every hearing with due justice but I follow whatever the ruling is.

We both want Tesla to go to school from our addresses.  In the long run, custody percentages may not even be changed.  We will still share Tesla 50/50 but her school may change.

I’m ready for this to just be over.  I’ve settled into a new house and know I will be here for the full 13 month lease.  The real question is: Will YOU be living in our house for the next 13 months?

Regardless of what has you upset about my blogging, the fact is you haven’t divorced me yet.  You have legal matters that need to be addressed before either of us know if the other has a stable household.  This is a reality that you just keep over-looking.

Join me in the “real world” long enough to handle the divorce proceedings so our child really does have stability in both parents.  I feel damn stable, do you?   I’m ready to get this all over with and I don’t feel I should have to pay the courts an additional $300 to force you in front of the Divorce Master to settle this.

But if I must, I will.

~P.

 

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Sep 14, 2011

Dear Heather VI

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Watch for their noses to grow!

Dear Heather,

     This morning I couldn’t help but notice for the second time, you were “home” when I drove across the county to my house and dropped Tesla off for the school bus.  When I asked John what you were doing home if you needed to leave for school at 6:30 AM, he simply replied “That’s only when she has clinicals” as if I should magically know that.

    So let me get this straight, John can’t meet me half way to exchange Tesla because he has to get your children on the bus, BUT only when you have clinicals.  It’s funny, not in the haha way, that neither of you volunteered how often you actually leave at 6:30 AM.  You and John both led me to believe you left for school every day at that time and now I find out you’re both lying once again.  Why doesn’t that surprise me?

   If you are so concerned about what’s best for Tesla, why would the two of you lie right to my face about John’s availability to meet me halfway and exchange Tesla?  The more I learn about you, the more I realize you and John are perfect for each other.  I could never pull off the expert lying the two of you have perfected as a couple.  There should be a contest for liar couples!   Maybe you don’t think of it as lying, but stretching the truth or just telling a half truth.  Either way, in my book it’s lying and when this all goes to court and the lying starts on the stand, a judge will see right through the both of you.

You can lie now, but the truth will come out eventually.

~P.

 

 

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Aug 26, 2011

Tear Control

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I hate crying.  I think of myself as a tough chick who can handle whatever life throws at me.  This week has been incredibly hard.

Back pain like I have never had before.

Heather making stupid accusations of why John and I split up. (Fueled by John)

John managing to get a judge to side with him even though he has a bad attitude.

Going to Tesla’s orientation at one of the oldest school in York County.

Trying to explain to Tesla that today may very well be her last day at daycare.

Calling Wallace school and telling them Tesla is enrolled at Eastern.

It is breaking my heart that my daughter isn’t going to school from our address.  She became very attached to her friends at daycare and this is her last day to see them.  Monday is yet another custody hearing.  I am glad I get another chance to plead my case and I hope it makes a difference.  This Monday is just a preliminary hearing, so another court date is in the future.  Meanwhile, I will spend my day periodically crying.

Tesla and I don’t deserve this.  She should be with her mother.  I am the one who devotes my time to her.  I don’t run a business anymore.  I don’t play softball or bowl.  I don’t run out at the drop of a hat to give an estimate or visit a job site.  I especially don’t focus on having someone (anyone) in my life so I don’t feel alone.  With Tesla by my side, I am never alone.  She is my number one and together her and I would focus on our school work.

My only consolation is IF her father does get majority custody, I am certain when Tesla is of age, she will choose to be with her mother.

I also figure in this…the divorce factor.  John can’t always be lucky enough to have things work in his favor.

Tough chicks cry,

~P.

 

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Aug 23, 2011

Dear John X

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Dear John,

    Can you believe our baby is starting school?  Time just flies when you’re having fun or tied up in a divorce. 

    What I wanted to write to you about is your behavior after Tesla had her school physical.  You took her to the doctors and she had to have four shots in order to be ready to start school.  While you were at the doctor’s office I asked if I could pick Tesla up afterwards.  You said you were still at the office and would call me afterwards, which you did.

    Yes, Tesla was crying and in pain from the shots to her arms.  You agreed to let me pick her up at our house and I talked to Tesla on the phone.  She wanted her mommy and that was completely understandable.  Kids generally want their mom when they are hurting and I told her I was on my way.  What I didn’t expect was your reaction.  Suddenly you didn’t want to let me pick Tesla up after the appointment.  I had hung out in York to keep from wasting gas and was already on my way to get Tesla when you changed your mind.  Yes, you changed YOUR mind.  Tesla still wanted her mom but you didn’t like that.

    So there I was already on the way to get her and you tell me I can get her in an hour because you wanted her to take some Tylenol and lay down.  Why would you do that to her and I?  When I called you and pointed out how quickly you changed your mind, you became angry and said, “well now you can wait until 5 PM” and hung up on me, not once but twice.  Didn’t you learn anything in the Kid’s First session?  http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/07/11/kids-first/

   The arguing with me at the top of the driveway is just ridiculous.  Ordering me to leave and come back at 5 PM didn’t work out so well.  I shouldn’t have to point out that the Kid’s First class you just attended frowns on this type of behavior.  What really rubbed me the wrong way was Tesla wasn’t even laying down, she was swimming in our pool. 

    Money is tight for me.  All the driving around with this 2-2-3 schedule is a real gas drainer.  I am happy to hear you sent $600 towards your arrears.  I am not happy that you announce this in front of our daughter as a “bonus check.”  It is NOT a bonus check, it’s the money you have owed in arrears since 2009!  Don’t make it sound like you are the hero of the day by paying the debt you’ve owed for years now. 

   Instead of recycling Kelly’s engagement ring to Heather, why not pawn it and pay the remainder of your arrears?  I can’t believe Heather is good with wearing a ring that was on the finger of a previous girlfriend!  Isn’t that bad luck or something?  Then again, Heather may not be superstitious.  I guess the ring isn’t the worst thing she needs to worry about…

Imagine all the new DNA on our marital bed,

~P.

 

 

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Aug 15, 2011

Custody Court

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Tomorrow is another custody hearing, this time before a judge.  I really hope this wraps things up, but I don’t see a quick end.  Tesla is ready to start school and I know she will do well.  It’s just hung up right now with all these custody disputes.

I have valid points for why Tesla should live with me.  The first being is she wants to live with me.  Life at mom’s is a calmer atmosphere.  Tesla looks up to her mom as I take on new challenges at college.  We do our “homework” together and she thinks it’s fun.  🙂

God has a plan for me and I’m trying to work it out everyday of my life.  I trust God won’t let me fall flat on my face.  Each day can be a challenge and I take it on with great gusto and don’t look back, other than to write about it.

If you pray, please add me to your prayer list.  I believe God answers prayers and watches over his faithful.

Bless you and yours,

~P.

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Jul 11, 2011

Kids First

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Yesterday I attended the court ordered Kids First workshop.  It is designed to teach parents how to help their children with separation and divorce.  I chose the first class on a Saturday that was available.  Guess who also chose the same day?  If you guessed John, you would be correct!  Also joining John was his girlfriend, Heather.  Oh the irony….

So the group of 30 parents sat around a huge table and our instructor asked how many were attending with a co-parent.  I raised my hand, but John didn’t.  The numbers didn’t work out evenly and she asked again.  This time she thought John’s co-parent was the woman beside me.  I volunteered that he was my husband to clear things up.  Our instructor complimented the 6 of us who were attending the same time as our co-parents.  Shortly after that, John asked the instructor to step outside.  When they returned, John ordered Heather to get up because they were leaving.  Her response was “I don’t think that’s a good choice.”  What she thought didn’t matter because out the door they went.

The rest of us started with the workshop and I have to admit, it was very educational.  I hope that John and Heather both attend.  I actually think it’s great that Heather is going also.  This class may open both their eyes….it did open mine.

There were serious rain storms over the weekend.  My newly carpeted and linoleum floors were ruined and water was everywhere.  My room-mate was certain there wouldn’t be any flooding issues, but he was wrong.  I’m looking at apartments again and this time I’m NOT moving into a basement!  I hope to find an apartment in Eastern York school district so custody is no longer an issue.  Tesla’s health is most important to me and I can not stay living here now that I know it will flood.

My never dull life….

~P.

 

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Jun 24, 2011

court again this month

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Well, I’m charged with contempt again.  John is dragging me into court with a laundry list of complaints against me.  Yesterday when I asked him about it he said “I didn’t even know about it.  My lawyer must have filed it.”  Yeah, ok John.

So what are the charges?

1.  I didn’t tell him where I was moving to or my new phone number.

Actually, I did tell him I was moving.  In fact my dad told him I was going to be moving because my parents were selling the house.  John knew I was looking at apartments well before I found my current home.  Also, my phone number never changed.

Prior to moving in, on Wednesday, May 25th John asked to pick up Tesla early.  I told him I was at the house Tess and I would be moving to and he was welcome to pick her up and see where we would be living.  He came and picked her up so obviously he knew where I was going to be living with Tesla.

2.Mother has established a blog on which she violates the stipulated order “take all measures deemed advisable to foster a feeling of affection between the child and other party.  In direct violation of this provision, she continues to post insults, negative comments and inappropriate statements about Father for the public to view and comment on, including people that have direct interaction with the child.”

Tesla isn’t reading my blog.  No one is reading it to her.  The dramatic change in Tesla’s demeanor, personality and attitude towards her father is because Tesla is catching on to the type of person her father is.  What I’m blogging about is the truth and he can blog about his point if he would like!

3. Mother may be residing with a third party that Mother only recently met on Craigs list.

He has met my room mate.  I told John he can see where we live (just John and not the whole circus.)  Funny how where I move is under a microscope, yet he can move anyone into our home and I am not to question it.

4. Father believes it is in the child’s best interest to be enrolled in the school district where he resides, as he has more flexibility with his job to be available and flexible in transporting the child to and from school and other activities.

This is a man who lives on his cell phone and at a moments notice will have to run out the door for some issue concerning the business.  He has no problem using Tesla’s daycare when he doesn’t have anyone to watch Tesla.  I go to school in the late morning and I’m done in the early afternoon.  I am ALWAYS available to my daughter.

5. Mother has failed to communicate with Father regarding important information concerning the child and has potentially placed the child in danger by moving into a residence with someone she recently met on Craigslist.

My room mate is an upstanding member of the community.  He has friends high on the food chain in Pennsylvania.  He is a widower and retired from serving our country.  I don’t get in his business and I’m trying to keep him from being forced into my business.  Unfortunately, the future ex is hell bent on making life difficult.

Will this actually go to court….who knows.  Does he actually have anything that can be held against me….hell no.  Am I ready to point out all his character flaws….hell yeah!

~P.

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Jun 2, 2011

Bulldog attack

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West York Bulldogs

It’s official!  Tesla is registered for kindergarten in West York!  She may be the only kindergartener registered for school in two different districts but that’s just fine.  I am ready to fight for custody of my daughter and act like a bulldog if necessary.

I find the whole custody court interesting….expensive but interesting.  I can’t wait to see what stories come out in court that will be used to sway a judge towards one parent or another.  I already know what my ammunition is and my lawyer says it’s in the bag.  In fact, my lawyer said he can’t believe John would even take it to court with his unbelievable history.  I can believe it, as he will stop at nothing to get his way all the time.

Secrets come out in court and become public record…..and even more titillating blog material!

~P.

 

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Feb 24, 2011

The Next “victim”

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As usual, I parked my car at the top of my driveway waiting for Jhole to let Tess out of the house. (That’s ordered by the crooked court of Harry Ness)  Sitting at the top of the drive I saw Tess come flying out the door followed by her father.  I was busy pulling her carseat out of the trunk and when I looked up I saw Jhole had a woman following him up the drive.  I was fine with having to park at the top of our driveway, figuring I wouldn’t have to see him. 

 Not so lucky, as Jhole always seems to find a reason to come to my car.  I was pretty sure his last girlfriend that I was aware of, Shirley somebody, was out of the picture.  I knew the one before Shirley, Kelli was lone gone back in Oct 2010.  She accidentally caught him cheating on an audio tape.  She called me and left a craaaaazy voice mail about me having my husband back and the house, etc cause she caught him fucking on tape.  I don’t know who was watching our daughter while he had that afternoon delight.  

 I lost track of who all has been my replacement wife.  Hell, I started out as a replacement wife.  Never thought I would be the second wife to be disposed of.  There was a Tammy (she had me charged with harrassment…bitch!), a Pam, hell he even went after our secretary..she wisely said NO WAY!  Then Kelli who was in blind love with Jhole just as I was.  She changed everything in her life except her job (smart….I gave up my career) and put thousands of her money into Jhole and I’s home and business.  Kelli was just another sucker in love.  Shirley….don’t know what happened there and that lets Heather.  After Jhole introduced her as his girlfriend I said, “oh you’re the new girlfriend.”  Jhole didn’t like that but I didn’t care.  I was more interested in getting Tess in the car and getting the hell away from John.  His patheticness makes me want to puke everytime I am near him. 

Tess was obviously uncomfortable with the introduction of the most recent chick in his life to her mommy.  She didn’t even want to say goodbye to her dad and he had to MAKE her say goodbye to Heather.  She called Tess “sweetie and said she would see her friday.”  I held back the wretching noises…Heather has much to learn about her new boyfriend.  He will throw anyone under a bus to get what he wants.  I would know.

I changed everything for him….at his insistance.  Unfortunately, I’m stuck dealing with his bullshit for the next 14 years.  I dread the fight of custody when Tess starts school this fall.  Looks like he will force me to court to get his way.  I don’t see him winning but then again, I didn’t see still being married 2 and half years after he filed!

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