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Feb 11, 2012

Jersey Shore, PA

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I have two admissions to make.

1.  I’ve never watched the television show Jersey Shore.

2.  I didn’t know where Jersey Shore, PA is located.

From what I understand, the television show has cast such a negative view of New Jersey, that even New Jersey doesn’t want them filming their show there.  Wow, that’s pretty bad.

Since NJ doesn’t want Jersey Shore anymore, Pennsylvania has stepped up and invited the cast to Jersey Shore, PA.  Who knows if they will take Pennsylvania up on the offer.  My thought is if their own state doesn’t want them, why invite them here?!

The last thing we should do is invite people behaving badly into our state.  We have enough of our own Commonwealth problems!

No New Jersey Shore,

~P.

 

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Feb 11, 2012

Dear John~ Thanks

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Dear John,

Just a quick note for you today.  I know you will get it as Heather is right on top of my writing.

Thank you for calling this morning and letting me know in a reasonable amount of time that you would not be taking Tesla to gymnastics.  I don’t blame the kids for wanting to play in the snow over going to the gym.  I guess my only concern would be, “if they are all sick, why play outside in the cold?”

So the girls are all going to gymnastics on Monday and Wednesday.  I’ve already asked if I can spend some time with Tesla on at least one of those days.  I realize it’s not part of her schedule, put it should be.

Also I have the Valentine’s Day cards her and I made for her class.  I’ll send them with Tesla on Monday, for school on Tuesday.

Please, let’s really focus on what’s best for Tesla.  She needs to regularly see me and her blood-related family that will never change over her life.  I will treat you with respect if you can do the same for me.  That includes keeping your girlfriend on a short leash.  I appreciate what she does do for Tesla, but I don’t appreciate her desire to tell me what I can and can’t do.

Thank you,

~P.

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Feb 10, 2012

What love gave me

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Falling in love is so exciting!  Love makes you giddy and fogs up the brain in thinking clearly.

Thinking back, I realize just how fogged up I was after falling in love.

That love failed.  I don’t think failed is even an accurate word.

Imploded, exploded, fell apart, completely melted down….

All of it hurt me inside.  Even now, it hurts.

People can think what they want of me.

Call me an “attention whore” and make accusations that are just ridiculous.

I find it amusing that people “think” they know everything.

 

So, what did love get me?

My daughter.

I don’t need my future ex-husband.

I have hope my daughter and her father will have a good long-term relationship.

That all falls on him.  I loved him and that love meant nothing in the long run.

I gave chance after chance to work things out with professional help.

It’s a shame he doesn’t believe in counseling.  Had there been an attempt, perhaps it would have made a difference.

 

Just because he and I didn’t work out doesn’t mean I shouldn’t see what the love did give me.

My daughter.

~P.

 

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Feb 10, 2012

Reviews

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Recent reviews for Delauter’s A1 Moving Helpers.

Report Date: October 28, 2010

Company Name:
DELAUTER’S A-1 MOVING HELPERS
Category:
Moving
Services Performed:
Yes
* More Weight is given to a report where work has been completed.
Work Completed Date:
October 07, 2010
Last Modified Date:
November 23, 2010
Hire Again:
No
Approximate Cost:
$4,100.00
Home Build Year:
1994
Description Of Work:
I originally met and spoke with the owner, John Delauter.  During our first meeting he brought his 4-year-old daughter that I had to entertain just to keep her quite so that he could do his estimate/job.  That should have been my first red flag but having a daughter myself, I understand how children can be.   But come on this is your business; find a sitter while you’re out doing your quotes…. Now before I go any further with my complaints, I will tell you that I am the easiest person to get along with and to work with.  Now with that being said, we came up with a price originally he quoted me $4,300.00.  Which I thought was outrageous.  He said ok then if you pay cash I will give you a break and charge $4,100.00.  He thought giving me one flat rate would be best. (I wanted to make note that I wrote my check out to his name at 11 am for the full amount and he had already cashed it before 12 noons.)  And that was before anything had taken place.  My move was from York, Pa.  To Crisfield, Md., which is about a 4 hour, drive.  So for that price, it included packing up my one bedroom apartment, which is only less than 400 square feet total.  I don’t keep a lot of clutter so the packing really didn’t take long.  It included 3 packers that came the following day, October 7, 2010. They had me packed up within a few hours.  I wasn’t around to see them pack up and when I returned, all the boxes were already stacked in the hallway so I couldn’t see what they had written on them.  The price included a 24ft truck, and 3 movers. With stops and pickup of additional furniture at Windsor (sectional sofa) which was up the street from him, then another stop on Carlisle road, (dining room set) then our final pick up was in Hanover, pa to pick up my roommates belongings which consisted of boxes, a grill and some additional smaller pieces of furniture.  Well when we got to Hanover, they quickly informed me that they didn’t have much room left so we had to end of leaving most of my new roommates boxes/furniture behind.  So I will now have to hire someone else to move those items and pay even more money on top of all the money I just paid out to John Delauter A1 Moving Helpers.   From Hanover we were on our way to Maryland.  To our new house, which they were supposed to go to and deliver our furniture in the rooms, provided for boxes/furniture that should have been marked for easy delivery.  It was anything but.
Member Comments:
Now the real problems.  I was elated with this company in the beginning I couldn’t praise them enough… then it all turned around, it all began when we were about to leave and I ask them do they know where they were going??  They looked at each other as if was crazy or something…and said no one gave use any direction.  Now as a professional company that I had assumed had done many of moves before would of had a GPS or something…no.they had nothing… so I told them to follow me… well they were driving about 40 miles per hour and at that rate we would of gotten at our destination at midnight.  So after I got to where I knew where I was going, I called them and told them to take my GPS and I would meet them there.  Immediately they got lost cause they didn’t know how to use the very user friendly GPS.  I helped them get back on track and continued on…. As I was pulled over waiting for them to find us so that we could give them my GPS, a women was broke down with her car…. her phone was dead so I elected to stay behind to help them till AAA got there.  Well that put them about a 1/2 hour ahead of me…so I call my sister-in-law ahead of time and ask her to ask them to please wait 15 mins that I would soon be there…they said no we are going to start moving her stuff/boxes into the house… she can move them where ever she wants them when she decides … they have a job at 6am in the morning and they have a long drive home cause they have over a 1000 boxes they have to move tomorrow morning…When I did arrived as indicated 15 to 20 mins later I walked into my house, which was my first time ever being in the house, it looked like a bomb had went off.  Boxes were scattered everywhere… furniture just sitting in the middle of each room… I ask the guys if they were going to help me put the furniture where it should be and they looked at each other like I was crazy for even asking them…I was scared to ask them to do anything cause if I did I felt they were going to bite my head off…There was absolutely no supervision whatsoever…I was later told that the one that one playing catch/ball with the neighborhood kids while passing my furniture to the other two guys, was suppose to be the supervisor.  This was a big surprise to me.  They finally got all my furniture/boxes in my house but not before causing damage, which I took many pictures of including the way everything looked when they were done.  The boxes were marked so bad that it literally took 2 weeks to sort thought the boxes to figure out where everything was suppose to go.  My hardwood floors that had just been rebuffed and shined had scratches and marks from dragging stuff instead of picking up the furniture/boxes.  There were nicks and scratches on most of the walls… I had to hire painters at my expense to get things back to the way the landlord had it.  Again another expense out of my pocket.   I have to hire someone to rebuff the hardwood floors, which is another expense to me.  They also cracked the showerhead, which now leaks, and the shower rod that was a special order, which cost over $200.00, was bent and had to be replaced.  They bent this probably rushing to take it down.  This move by far has cost me more than a down payment on a new house.  Let me give you an example of how some of the boxes were labeled.  Curtins (yes that is how it was spelled.) and instead of taking my curtains down, folding them and putting the rods in separate box…they wrapped the curtains around the rods and stuffed the in a box altogether.  Another box labeled: Cloth? Odds and ends, Kitchen but never put what was in box. Pantry, Food, cloths from bedroom. Cleaners, living room, again non-specific, Connie’s Stuff.  Everything was Connie’s stuff…so that made no sense.  So you can see why it took 2 weeks to go through everything…I had to start putting my own bed together cause if I didn’t I wouldn’t of had a place to sleep.  They were very little help…so that I could motivate them I ran out and got them drinks, offered food. Anything to keep them from complaining…. this has been by far the worst experience I have ever had with a company… So all in all they did about 20 hours worth of work.  When it was time for them to leave they were so worried that they were going to get lost so I even had to give the my GPS so that they wouldn’t get lost.  However, If I didn’t keep calling/texting, I don’t think they would of even of sent me back my GPS.  Just where do these companies come from????   So the way I see it they charged me $200.00 per hour.  So I went on line and also call a couple of other companies only to be told of how I got ripped off…that they saw me coming a mile away.  I understand that the going rate for 3 packers and one truck is about 95.00 per hour.   So I should have been charge only $1805.00 at the most.  And then on top of it they didn’t complete the entire move.   So I still have to go back to PA and hire someone to get the rest of my roommate’s items that they didn’t have room on the truck.  What also really angers me is I could of paid my 3 brothers $500.00 each.  And rented a Pensky Truck. (Which is what they pulled up in) so I could of done this whole move for under 1500.00 not $4100.00.  These people really ripped me off.   Had I got good service, and they didn’t do damage and had the called me back when I called to complain, and resolved my complaints then I wouldn’t be so angry about this whole situation.  The owner of the company won’t return my calls, all he has done is throw me onto one of his packers, which she promise she would talk with him and call me back.  When I didn’t hear back from her for a week, I decided to text him and then he responded to my text and when I ask him to call me he stopped texting.  That has been the extent of our conversation.  He hasn’t offered to take care of damages even though he claims to be insured and has offered no refund what so ever… I will never, ever use them nor refer them to anyone…. and every change I get unless I get some resolution, I will tell as many people as I can about this company… don’t let those testimonies fool you.  I made the mistake in believing them…don’t you do the same…thanks. This company completely misrepresented themselves.  Please just so you don’t end up kicking  yourself iyour you know what daily…DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT EVER USE THESE PEOPLE…EVER!!!

                      Stay As Far Away As Possible

Would give negative stars if possible. Hungover; broke items, took multitude breaks,complained, etc. all while being paid BY THE HOUR. Nice scam if you can get it.

September 30, 2011 by Lise Morin in York, PA

BAD, BAD, BAD Unethical owner & Company

Unfortunately you can’t give 0 stars to this sham of a company. John DeLauter makes all kinds of claims about the people he has moved, mostly attorneys & judges. He broke into my home without a court order and removed premarital items. After the judge ordered the items returned to the inside of my home to be inventoried for 30 days, he dumped them all of them in my driveway. DON’T TRUST HIM WITH ANYTHING HE SAYS.

January 14, 2012 by Frank Ferrentino in York, PA

 

Terrible Company and owner

He defied a court order to move the entire contents from a garage into the basement of an enclosed area, instead dumped the entire contents in the driveway of our property where the Judge had ordered we had 30 days to inventory it. We had to hire a reputable Company at our expense to move the items to our basement through Bilco doors. He wanted more money to perform a task he was supposed to do from the start. When you hear the name of John DeLauter, run as fast as possible!!!

January 16, 2012 by Madeline Mastro in Millville, NJ
Overall F
Price F
Quality F
Responsiveness F
Punctuality F
Professionalism F
Dispute Status: Penalty Box
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Feb 9, 2012

Making and Presenting a Slideshow~ Tips

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This is a blog just because I’m frustrated in my writing class.  We are currently doing presentations on underdogs.  Everyone in the class is assigned an “underdog” and we have to explain who are underdog is, what happened and why they are considered an underdog.

I did mine on David (vs Goliath) and posted it on my blogsite.  http://girlboxer1970.com/2012/01/28/off-with-his-head/ The photos from my presentation slideshow  are with in my story online.  The actual slideshow presentation I showed in class had only one slide with words on it, comparing David to Goliath similar to a fighters card.  The rest was photos that gave examples of what I was actually describing or referring to.

Here are some simple tips for making a slideshow that works well with your oral presentation.

1.  Think “less is more.”  Slideshows crammed with words is a complete waste of time.  Professors don’t want to hear you read what’s on the screen anymore than you classmates do.  Use only few words and more visual examples to make understanding your topic easier.

2.  Pictures are great in slide shows.  Make sure they will appear focused on-screen.  Only put two to four pictures per screen. (remember less is more.)  Cite where the pictures came from.

3. Don’t use more slides than you can show within your presentation time frame.  Five or six well-done slides for an 8 minutes oral report is good.  The focus should be what you are saying.  Flying through sixteen slides  is to quick for an audience to grasp and that defeats the whole purpose of the slideshow.

4. Check your slides carefully for typos.

5. Don’t depend on a video clips to fill up your time.  If the professor wanted video after video, it wouldn’t be an oral presentation.  Keep the clips short and to the point.  If you really want to show “that winning touchdown” just have video of the throw and catch, not the last four and a half minutes of the game.

6. Try making your slideshow before writing what you want to say.  Seeing a picture, chart, graph, quote, etc. can help you organize your thoughts before writing the verbal part of your presentation.  This makes everything flow much better.

7. Know what slide is coming up by writing it on your notecards, paper etc.  Make some sort of notation on your notes so you know it’s time to move to the next slide.  Again, makes it flow.

8. Do not have gum in your mouth for Christ’s sake!

9. Act professional during the presentation.  Humor used properly will keep your audience’s attention.  If the presentation is on a somber subject then humor would not be proper.

10.  Finally, for the love of God, do not use these “filler” words: um, right, kinda, you know, okay, sorta, and, like.  “This slide is…um….of David. And he was a shepard….okay.  God thought David was sorta special, you know.  Kinda like a “superhero”….um….okay”  (You get the point)

Hope this may help anyone who reads it.  Other ideas for tips?  Add in the comments!

Good luckies!

~P.

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Feb 9, 2012

Is she sick?

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I went to gymnastics tonight, looking forward to seeing Tesla practice.  I arrived early and was working on my Spanish while I waited for Tesla to arrive with her father. (Originally, I thought I would get her after school.  That was not permitted.)  Then I thought I would at least get to drive her home  after practice.

Well, that didn’t happen either.  At 5:52 PM I get a text from John.

“No gymnastics tonight all children have upset stomachs.”

Are you serious?  Eight minutes before gymnastics starts he texts me they aren’t coming.  I wrote back, “Why did you wait until now to tell me!?  I am at gym already.”  He didn’t respond which I expected. I called.  Voicemail.  😦

I texted him “Please let tt call me.”  No response.

I tried calling again.  Voicemail.  I let a message asking what is wrong with all the children?  Tesla had been complaining of stomach pains over my weekend with her.  I let her father know about the pain, low grade fever and what medication I gave her.  He called me later, asking again because Tesla was still hurting.

At 8:10 I texted “Please have tt call me.”  No response.

I have the right to speak to my daughter.  The right to know what is wrong with her and if she is going to be taken to see our doctor.

AND

I want to say goodnight to my child, especially if she doesn’t feel good.

 

~P.

 

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Feb 8, 2012

Dear John~ domestics debacle

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Letters he nevers learns from

Dear John,

It wasn’t good to see you this morning.  I’m sure you felt the same way.

I was surprised when you came alone.  No lawyer in tow today?  I wonder why that is…did you feel you had everything under control yourself?  Or your lawyers weren’t available?  Your lawyers quit?  My lawyer sent him a letter back in December and so far, no response.  You know, I had a lawyer quit a couple of years back when this divorce process was started….by you.  He quit shortly after you emptied our entire house of everything and didn’t tell me.  Was I really surprised you did that?  No.  I didn’t have Tesla with me when I went there for the first time.  I thank God I didn’t because I don’t know how I would have explained where everything was.  You took out everything in 24 hours, even Tesla’s belongings.  I have pictures of this pathetic attempt to control things in the house.  Any respect I still had for you vanished that day.

Back to domestics, did you notice this time Carla was actually showing interest in what exactly our marriage situation is?  Perhaps they are going to look a little deeper at our case?  Or, maybe she was just being nosey ya know?  Asking the questions she did.  You have to admit, it is all fascinating.  The only draw back: it’s our life and what’s left of “our life” is just wrapping it up.  It really pisses me off that I am no longer entitled to alimony because I have a man living in my home. What kind of bullshit is that?  I’m not married to Dale, I’m married to YOU.  It’s not even about the money since it wasn’t that much.  It’s just the damn point.

What blows my mind is that you are going to file for child support.  Even Carla seemed surprised that you are insisting on holding me to pay you support.  You really do want it all don’t you?  The business, the house, our child and support payments to boot.  I tried to talk to you about support and you just refuse to even listen.  All you have to do is sign a piece of paper saying you do not request support.  Is that really asking too much?  The amount you would receive will be just as sad as my hourly rate.  It’s ironic that when we met, you told me to tell my son’s father he didn’t have to pay me the $200 a month support for Jarrid and Zeth.  Do you remember?  Saying to me, “$200 dollars a month is nothing.”  When I asked you what you thought I should have to pay you, your response was, “That’s up to the courts to decide.”  Since when do you want a court to decide anything?!

SO,  instead of me  wasting my time “looking for a job” or making a pitiful hourly wage, just realize how this will affect Tesla.    This will take away my availability to see Tesla, to study hard to keep my GPA high, and take care of my home.  Those are my “jobs” and  I have taken school loans out to the tune of $15,000 so far just to pay rent and live.  Oh, since we are still married, you are responsible for half….

Please take a moment and really think this over.  What’s best for Tesla is to spend time with her parents.  What is best for any child is to spend time with their parents and since we are separated we have to split her time.  It should be as equal as we can make it while living in different school districts.  I’ve never kept Tesla from you and ask that you would do the same for me.  She needs her mother to be part of her schedule, not an after-thought, every other weekend.  The more she sees me, the easier it will be for her to accept that she has to live with you.  She said to me that she told you she wanted to live with me and you told her “no.” Yes, legally, she is in your “custody” and you don’t have to share that time with me.   It is just selfish that you don’t want to.  I don’t ask for unreasonable amounts of time to see Tesla or even over night.  That threat you made, “You better drop this or I won’t let you see her except for every other weekend.”  You are threatening me with seeing her less, because I am asking to see her more than every other weekend.  Why would I drive there if she had no interest in going away with me?  She wants to see me.

There is no reason we can’t work out a schedule for Tesla and I to spend time together on a regular basis.

There is no reason I should have to get a part-time job to pay you support when every cent our moving company makes, you keep.

There is no reason Dale should be held responsible for me when I am still fucking married to you.

I am not saying I think you should have to pay child support to me.  What I am saying is: I think you are requesting child support just to be a jerk.  To make my life harder, which seems to make you happy.  I get that you want me to know you are “in control” of Tesla.  The person who doesn’t get it, is Tesla.  Our divorce is causing too much stress on her.

Let’s make a goal for 2012.  All four of us should try to get divorced from our spouses so we can get on with our lives.  Maybe then, Dale and I CAN get married!

I pray every night for this part of our lives to be finalized.  God doesn’t answer my prayers any faster than your lawyer answers letters.

See you tomorrow 🙂

~P.

Tesla and I are looking forward to Wednesday afternoon and spending time together.  Please allow her and I to spend a few hours together before gymnastics.  It really means a lot to her.

P.S.  I just got off the phone with you.  How dare you tell me to get a job and help support our daughter?  The nerve of you to tell me times are tough when you just took a week’s vacation before Christmas.  You haven’t paid any support since November yet I survived.  Now you don’t have to pay support at all and I will survive.   I can not believe you said “all this time you have to volunteer in Tesla’s class, you could be working.”  It’s crystal clear you are limiting my time with Tesla because you have been “granted” power by Judge Dorney.   You said it yourself on the phone, just now, because you don’t want me part of her routine.

It saddens me that you just don’t get that you are hurting Tesla.  What she says is HER words.  I don’t “tell” her what to say nor do I put ideas in her head.  I give her honest answers to her questions and anything I say, she is free to tell you.    I don’t listen in on your conversations, nor limit how long you talk to Tesla.  You on the other hand, do both.    You have given me permission to take Tesla home after gymnastics.  If that’s all the time you will allow me, I guess there is nothing I can do.  It’s Tesla who will be disappointed she can’t go to dinner with her cousin Blaine because she has to eat dinner at home, on schedule, as a family.  In my humble opinion (which I realize means nothing to you) she should have a night during the week when I can pick her up and we can do things with her cousin, brothers, friends, etc.

Like I said at domestics today, in the long run you’ll see the error in your ways.  You should retake the Kids First Class.  http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/07/11/kids-first/  I really don’t think you learned a damn thing.

Also, since you claim not to read my blog, I will email this to you.  That way you, Heather and LaDonna can all have the opportunity to read it together.

~P.

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Feb 5, 2012

Well that sucked….

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Loved this rant. LMAO

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Feb 4, 2012

Dale~Top 10

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****Caution John**** You may not want to read how happy I am in this blog.

My Top 10 of Dale Hollinger:

10. He’s on Team Pattie.  Bless his heart and patience, I guess I’m worth waiting for cause he is my #1

9.  What a crazy sense of humor.  Occasionally I have to make you stop making me-laugh cause it hurts.

8.  He is one smart man.  I have no idea what all that computer gibberish is that you talk about everyday, but you’re good at what you do.

7.  Tattoos,  pierced nipples and scars!  Oh my!

6.  Over the past.  It doesn’t matter if it’s your childhood, the accident, ex-wives or ex-girlfriends, Dale is over it.

5.  Dishwasher.  Bless his soul, he does them by hand.

4.  Respectable guy.  Helps people out, treats people well.

3.  Amazing lover.  He brings a whole new level to multiple orgasms.

2.  Resists the drama.  Bullshit is always flying, he respects me by not letting himself be drawn in.

1.  Love.  I love him and he loves me.  He really does love me.

Not that fake-ass love I fell for in the past.

~P.

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Feb 3, 2012

Volunteering

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This is just a little bit weird to me but…..nothing surprises me.

I just spoke with the principal at Tesla’s school.  Suddenly, there is no restriction to my volunteering.  I may come anyday, whether John volunteers that day or not.  The principal made it sound as though there had been miscommunication between her and Ms. Dettinger.  I don’t think it was a communication problem between the two of them….but Ms. Dettinger seems to have been thrown under the bus.

The principal said, “You both are equally allowed to come to the school.  As adults, there should not be an issue.”

I most certainly agreed with her.  I am relieved and thrilled to feel welcome in Tesla’s classroom again.

One in my favor,

~P.

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