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Sep 14, 2011

Dear Heather VI

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Watch for their noses to grow!

Dear Heather,

     This morning I couldn’t help but notice for the second time, you were “home” when I drove across the county to my house and dropped Tesla off for the school bus.  When I asked John what you were doing home if you needed to leave for school at 6:30 AM, he simply replied “That’s only when she has clinicals” as if I should magically know that.

    So let me get this straight, John can’t meet me half way to exchange Tesla because he has to get your children on the bus, BUT only when you have clinicals.  It’s funny, not in the haha way, that neither of you volunteered how often you actually leave at 6:30 AM.  You and John both led me to believe you left for school every day at that time and now I find out you’re both lying once again.  Why doesn’t that surprise me?

   If you are so concerned about what’s best for Tesla, why would the two of you lie right to my face about John’s availability to meet me halfway and exchange Tesla?  The more I learn about you, the more I realize you and John are perfect for each other.  I could never pull off the expert lying the two of you have perfected as a couple.  There should be a contest for liar couples!   Maybe you don’t think of it as lying, but stretching the truth or just telling a half truth.  Either way, in my book it’s lying and when this all goes to court and the lying starts on the stand, a judge will see right through the both of you.

You can lie now, but the truth will come out eventually.

~P.

 

 

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Aug 22, 2011

Dear Heather IV

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Dear Heather,

  Let’s take some of your comments piece by piece so I can respond properly.

 Was it not you and John that had an affair, was it not you that was engaged to a married man that was still living with his WIFE, was it not you Pattie that pushed another women out of HER own home that SHE build and OWNED!!!

   When I met John I didn’t know he was married.  He didn’t volunteer that information and I actually found out by accident.  I met his wife at Sam Lewis Park about a week after I met John.  I had no idea he had this mad plan in his head to move me and my sons into the house with his wife, step-son and his best friend, Craig.  When he proposed this ridiculous idea, both Diane and I looked at him like he was insane. 

   Now fast forward a little.  There’s only so much I want to write in my blog.  You see Heather, it’s just so bizarre that I have to save it for the book.  

  Diane is living at her sisters and John has packed up what he decided she should take with her.  He effectively moved her out in about a day and immediately pushed for me to move in.  I was caught up in a whirlwind and had no control over what John did.  His actions were reckless and not well thought out but I accepted that he was distraught over the stress of accepting his marriage was over.  He even had me read letters Diane had written him that were proof enough to me that their marriage was already over and it had nothing to do with me.

  Because I am not a judgemental person, I stuck by his side and I fell in love with him, fast and hard.  No one could talk me out of wanting to be with John and he was assertive in wanting me by his side at all times.  Later in life I realized that all this should have been warning signs but I just missed them.   

  John bought Diane and Todd (who was not a child but actually in his 20’s) a mobile home (with cash) and Craig, Diane and Todd all moved there.  John moved my boys and I out of my house in Red Lion into his house in Windsor.  When my sons and I moved in, Diane already had a new home.  She signed off on the house and John and I mortgaged it together because we had to.  He could not mortgage the house without my income. 

Have you said I’m sorry to Johns step-son and ex-wife and meant it?

Actually I have told Diane I was sorry for helping John steam roll over her during the divorce.  We don’t have bad feelings towards each other because she is happy they divorced.  Imagine that?!

The fact is John is SINGLE and has been single for 3 years.

John may act like he is single but trust me, he is married.  Even when we were trying to work things out he was still knocking boots with other people.  John and SINGLE will never exist because he can not handle being single.

You have lived with boyfriends and have a man that lives at your home now.

Wrong….I have never lived with boyfriends and there is not a man who lives in my home now.  Just because his name is on the lease and we would LIKE to live together does not mean he lives here.  Dale visits often but does not live with us….yet.

I am happy for you Heather and I’m glad you could care less about money.  That will make it much easier for you when the divorce does take place.  If I have to pay my lawyer to force John to move forward with the divorce, I will.  It’s just that I don’t have any money sitting around to use right now.

Congratulations on having full custody of your children.  If it were up to Tesla and I, she would live with her momma also!  

This letter is much longer than I normally like to write.  Really, I didn’t even get to comment on all your comments but this is good enough for now.  I see you have an ex-friend who doesn’t mind bringing up your past.  My past is an open book….you’ll be able to buy it one day.  Heck, I’ll even sign it for ya!  I am not ashamed or scared to write about my past, nor would I change it. 

 I have yet to meet one,ONE person that knew Pattie and John during there marriage that has a GOOD thing to say about her (including her father and mother).

Please girlfriend….I don’t believe that for one second and neither will anyone else who reads my blogs.  My dad and I might bang heads often but he is not going to bad-mouth me and my mom has a multitude of good things to say about me.  I am her number one go to when she needs anything.  Don’t you find it strange that John has little to no contact with his family?  John’s mom doesn’t even know Tesla.  Why? Because she doesn’t want to have to deal with John.  How sad is that?!

Just touching on a few of your comments,

~P.

P.S.  Wrecker is spelled with a W.

P.S.S.  Are you and John engaged?  How exciting!!!

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Aug 21, 2011

Dear Heather III

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Dear Heather,

      Now that you are giving your opinion on my life, I wanted to drop you a quick note.  You are really hung up on the fact that John and I are still married.  Well, that makes two of us.  Do you understand the reason why he is not moving forward with the divorce?  If you don’t, let me spell it out for you.

M O N E Y

Yes, it’s all about money now.  See in Pennsylvania when two people divorce it’s 50/50.  That’s fifty percent of the assets and fifty percent of the debt.  John and I own a house and business together.  John doesn’t see it that way, but in reality, it’s true.  While the business is still up and running (amazing….I credit LaDonna for that) I don’t receive any income other than the roughly $170.00 deposited into my child support and alimony fund every other week.

I’m not remaining married to John to continue getting alimony.  That $52 a month is pathetic when you consider he just made $17,000 in payments over three months to the mortgage company.  He doesn’t want to move forward with the divorce BECAUSE he would rather just keep all our income for himself.

The most important thing in John’s life is money.  “It’s all about making the donuts” is his favorite phrase.  I never felt the need to throw around money or act like I’m better than others because our business was successful.  People drifted out of my life because they couldn’t deal with hearing the constant banter about money coming  from my husband’s mouth.

I really don’t have an issue with you Heather.  I think you need to butt out when it comes to custody and divorce because you don’t have any say in it.  I see you as just another victim to the “wolf in sheep’s clothing.”  You’ll realize this one day.

Until then….baaah baaah,

~P.

 

 

 

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Aug 14, 2011

Dear Heather II

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Dear Heather,

    We were overdue for a short note.  I haven’t written in a while and I apologize.  You have started to grow on me and not in the fungus kind of way that may sound.  On Saturday I had Tesla so you and John could attend those parenting classes, Kids First.  What did you think? 

    I’m growing curious about you I guess, as time drags on with this divorce.  John says you two met in January of this year.  I think it was more like February but he may have been dating several people at once.  If you are really going to stick around, long term in my daughter’s life I would like to know more about you.  We chit chat and are at least on speaking terms now.  Friday night Tesla and I made brownies and I sent two in one package for you and John and Tess had her own package.  John said he ate his, did you enjoy yours?  Ying actually ate John’s first brownie and I had to wrap up another special one for him for Tesla.

   Anyway, back to getting to know each other as we both spend with my daughter.  I seriously am working on knowing all your children through my daughter and the little things Tesla and your girls make.  Tesla for the most part enjoys their company.  She also enjoys daycare and now these gymnastic lessons John is taking all our daughters to. 

   Let me ask you Heather, aren’t you ready for this divorce to just be over?  Are you ready to get on with your life, even get married to my husband?  I know I’ve met someone I really enjoy spending time with and I want to move on with my life.  Or are you ok with this divorce limbo situation because you’re living in my house, enjoying the fruits of my business?

   Probably see you tomorrow,

~P.

 

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Jul 14, 2011

Dear Heather

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Heather,

It was good to talk to you today at the top of my driveway.  You of course know I am not to drive further down to get Tesla.  I was impressed by how important it was to you for Tesla to find the heart-shaped rock she found for me, then lost.  In that 10 minutes, it was actually a relief to apologize to you if I’ve come off as an ass.  I realize on occasion I act that way.  It was just so much easier to just ignore you until you move on in your life.  But, like I was (wifey #2) …and Diane (wifey #1)….and Kelli (was gonna be wifey #3) we get that you think everything is going to be peachy keen in your life.  I’ll cross my fingers for you, but not hold my breath.  Sorry if my expectations are awfully low in any relationship John is having.  He doesn’t exactly have a great track record, if you know what I mean.

But, again I’m happy to hear all is good under the roof of my house, at least for you and John.  You and I both want to see the drama end, but it could take a while.  This divorce just isn’t going so smoothly.  Not every woman who John takes it upon himself to crash into their life ends up holding the bigger stick.  Actually, none of us have so far.  I’m getting good vibes that will change though.  I’m sure you’re happy to hear that.  The divorce will come sooner or later and everyone’s life will move on.  My guess is, not exactly the way we all would like, but it will move on.  I could have sworn I saw an engagement ring on your finger at the parenting classes.  Are you and my husband engaged?  How exciting!!

Write to you soon!

Best wishes to the future wifey #3,

~P.

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