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Aug 14, 2011

Dear Heather II

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Dear Heather,

    We were overdue for a short note.  I haven’t written in a while and I apologize.  You have started to grow on me and not in the fungus kind of way that may sound.  On Saturday I had Tesla so you and John could attend those parenting classes, Kids First.  What did you think? 

    I’m growing curious about you I guess, as time drags on with this divorce.  John says you two met in January of this year.  I think it was more like February but he may have been dating several people at once.  If you are really going to stick around, long term in my daughter’s life I would like to know more about you.  We chit chat and are at least on speaking terms now.  Friday night Tesla and I made brownies and I sent two in one package for you and John and Tess had her own package.  John said he ate his, did you enjoy yours?  Ying actually ate John’s first brownie and I had to wrap up another special one for him for Tesla.

   Anyway, back to getting to know each other as we both spend with my daughter.  I seriously am working on knowing all your children through my daughter and the little things Tesla and your girls make.  Tesla for the most part enjoys their company.  She also enjoys daycare and now these gymnastic lessons John is taking all our daughters to. 

   Let me ask you Heather, aren’t you ready for this divorce to just be over?  Are you ready to get on with your life, even get married to my husband?  I know I’ve met someone I really enjoy spending time with and I want to move on with my life.  Or are you ok with this divorce limbo situation because you’re living in my house, enjoying the fruits of my business?

   Probably see you tomorrow,

~P.

 

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Jul 29, 2011

Now I know

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Remember this blog?  http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/02/21/obsessed-with-everything/

Now I get where John got the idea.  This is Tesla’s hand-me-downs from Heather, John’s girlfriend, daughters.  I don’t mind the hand-me-downs at all!  Thanks so much Heather.  I just think it’s weird you write MOM inside your daughter’s clothes.

Now we all know

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Jul 26, 2011

Dear John VI

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Drama

Dear John,

This one will be short as I’m dashing off to see my boyfriend, Dale Hollinger.  I’m sure you already have done your research, or at least had LaDonna fill you in.  Isn’t she just a great office manager?  Hopefully she is keeping the books very accurate for everyone’s sake.  Have you given her a raise since I did last?  Back in 2009?  You know she graduated top of her class and I can’t imagine she’s going to stick at the office forever.  Why would she?!

Back to me leaving my home to visit with friends; I miss Tesla.  If she were here tonight, she would get to visit my awesome friends also.  I hope you are spending quality time with Tesla in some fashion, or another.  I want Tesla to have the closeness she has with me, with you.

Our court date is approaching quickly, August 19th, I believe.  Will things get decided so Tesla can start school?  Once we can get over this hurdle, we can take the next leap over divorce.  I have to write Heather soon.  I see her so often with you and Tess.  Does she have a job?  I know how you like your women to stay in the home.

No longer caged,

~P.

 

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Jul 21, 2011

Dear John IV

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I love this pic I "stole" off the internet. She has an entire dear john website.

Dear John,

Thank you for letting me know the check I wrote for my move has been sent to domestics.  While it’s only $106, that’s significant in my little world.  Last night I had a few minutes to go online and check out the mortgages.  About a week or two ago you proudly told me you had caught up on the mortgages.  That was good to hear as it affects my credit as well as yours.  I even was happy for you and your gang to take a little vacation over the weekend I moved in. http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/07/17/dear-john-ii/

Of course, you weren’t telling me the truth.  I see you made many payments to get out of that $10k hole.  I would expect money will show up as earned income first, before you made enough payments to bring the balance down.  Regardless, the mortgages are still behind.  Though I haven’t received any foreclosure notices http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/03/13/act-91-notice/ recently.  Have you?  Maybe it’s this whole “changing my address” so often the Post Office can’t keep up.  At least I am keeping them on their toes.  Just spoke to my mailman yesterday and he updated the mailbox to Patricia A. Crider and I reluctantly added my previous name, Delauter, because I knew I would still get mail with your name in error.  It takes time to get all these little boo-boos fixed when your stuck in a divorce.

Whoops…sorry about that.  I kinda went off a bit over the whole name thing.  It’s just things like this letter from Wells Fargo http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/04/15/not-horsing-around/.  I want my name separated from you.  It’s so simple John.  Our marriage is over and you have started a new life with a new woman.  Our daughter would like both families to be happy.  If you and Heather can be happy together, that’s great.  Super Dooper Great!  Even if that means we all have to start over, or at least fall behind, then recover.  I can do that and so can you!

Okay, good writing to you.  Now and then I still miss you.  I’m not sure why.

Just looking in on the mortgages and finding your bs,

~P.

 

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Jul 18, 2011

Math, M&Ms and more

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How to calculate in chocolate

Done!  Done!  Done!

Just finished up my math homework.  My professor lent me his extra calculator this afternoon.  How kind is that?!  I had one that someone else had bought me, but that one wasn’t “scientific” enough to handle these advanced math problems.  I decided to use M&Ms to calculate but that didn’t last long.  Too Tempting!

A friend brought me the M&M’s yesterday, the ones with pretzels inside.  They are pretty damn good.  On a completely different note,  I’m currently experiencing gas problems. (Not to be confused with the gas on the first day I blogged at http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/01/21/its-just-gas-it-to-will-pass/ )  Columbia Gas was called on Thursday about my gas needs.  What do they say?  They can have it hooked up in a week.  A week?

It has been less than 3 days since I moved here and I am over the cold showers and stove that just won’t light.  It is hot out, but straight cold showers over the past 3 days SUCKS!  My entire body gets covered in goosebumps and I try to not bite myself as I shiver.  Forget about shaving!  I could die a slow death from all the nick marks on my legs!

Just half an hour and I leave to get Tesla.  I miss her so much!  Of course there’s always that feeling I get when I have to drive to my old house to pick her up. (http://girlboxer1970.com/2011/03/30/that-sinking-feeling/ )  Tesla is worth driving to my old home, talking to John, talking to John’s girlfriend, rarely seeing my dog I couldn’t take, Vic.

Everything I do is to improve my life for my daughter’s sake.

TT time soon!

~P.

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Jul 14, 2011

Dear Heather

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Heather,

It was good to talk to you today at the top of my driveway.  You of course know I am not to drive further down to get Tesla.  I was impressed by how important it was to you for Tesla to find the heart-shaped rock she found for me, then lost.  In that 10 minutes, it was actually a relief to apologize to you if I’ve come off as an ass.  I realize on occasion I act that way.  It was just so much easier to just ignore you until you move on in your life.  But, like I was (wifey #2) …and Diane (wifey #1)….and Kelli (was gonna be wifey #3) we get that you think everything is going to be peachy keen in your life.  I’ll cross my fingers for you, but not hold my breath.  Sorry if my expectations are awfully low in any relationship John is having.  He doesn’t exactly have a great track record, if you know what I mean.

But, again I’m happy to hear all is good under the roof of my house, at least for you and John.  You and I both want to see the drama end, but it could take a while.  This divorce just isn’t going so smoothly.  Not every woman who John takes it upon himself to crash into their life ends up holding the bigger stick.  Actually, none of us have so far.  I’m getting good vibes that will change though.  I’m sure you’re happy to hear that.  The divorce will come sooner or later and everyone’s life will move on.  My guess is, not exactly the way we all would like, but it will move on.  I could have sworn I saw an engagement ring on your finger at the parenting classes.  Are you and my husband engaged?  How exciting!!

Write to you soon!

Best wishes to the future wifey #3,

~P.

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