Your flight to India has been moved up 3 hours, RUN!

Things are hectic here so posting on my personal blog and on the college weebly blog is not going to be in any type of order. What I post on the school blog is much different than what I write on my personal blog. My professor thanks me for not letting loose on the school blog. LOL

On day five we were pretty much train bound and traveling to the next city. Let me tell you, if you never traveled abroad, it is exhausting. Good thing I don’t need much sleep to get by. I stayed awake the entire train ride to take photo and talking to the Indian family I shared a compartment with. The parents had two sons, ages 7 and 14, and I think a grandmother and one other family member, perhaps a daughter or aunt with them. They were very friendly, chatting my ear off wanting to know what I thought about Indian culture, the food and customs. I told them we as a group were surprised to learn they cremated their dead by the river and that the bodies of children, pregnant women, priests, monks, victims of snake bites and deadly diseases were sunk in the Ganges River. I used the word surprised because had I said “absolutely disgusting and vile beyond words” they might not have told me I was a very nice American at the end of the trip.

The boys who loved Angry Birds on the train ride.

The boys who loved Angry Birds on the train ride.

When I went to take photos from the train (where I open the compartment door where the “bathroom” was and basically took risks that no one else was going to) I let the sons play Angry Birds on my laptop. They loved that and played for over an hour my classmates told me, until their mom told them they had to lay down for a nap. My laptop was charging so I didn’t mind the boys playing games since I wasn’t using it. I stood for 3 hours taking photos, switching sides on the train car. At times the train moved super fast, so I’m not sure what all my photos will have caught.

This just blows my mind.

This just blows my mind.

Traffic at a railroad crossing. This was not bad. Sometimes they were lined up further than I could see.

Traffic at a railroad crossing. This was not bad. Sometimes they were lined up further than I could see.

They really do each everything but the tracks.

They really do each everything but the tracks.

 

A family living along the tracks.

A family living along the tracks.

My days are a bit of a blur so I’m just going to pick up where I left off on my last post and I believe that was day 4 when we went to the Brahmin priest ceremony on December 30th at the Ganges River. The next morning was when we went back the river for the boat ride and to see the cremation ceremony. Let me tell you it freaked us out to see people not just bathing in the river, but drinking it too. It stunk so bad it nearly gagged me and I have a pretty high tolerance level for smells. I was surprised to learn dolphins live in the river also but now that I think about it, I believe I recall reading that dolphins sometimes bring the sunken bodies up to the surface and toss them around like they are play toys. How weird is that? After the boat ride and seeing the sun rise over the Ganges (which was beautiful regardless of the stench) we went back to our hotel for breakfast. After breakfast we went to a rare, silk factory and learned how it was still done by hand on ancient looms. We were in awe of the beautiful clothes and went a bit crazy buying pillow cases, table runners, and scarves. I bought two pillow covers, a blue one with hearts for my mom and a multi-colored on with a peacock for Brian’s mom. I think they will love them. After the silk factory, we had the rest of the afternoon free where most of the class took naps, including me (shocking I know) so we could be well-rested for the New Years Eve party. Let me tell you, that party was off the hook.

amazing rock carvings at the Abandoned City

amazing rock carvings at the Abandoned City

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At the Abandoned City in Agra.

At the Abandoned City in Agra.

What they "thought" would hold their water supply...fail.

What they “thought” would hold their water supply…fail.

 

A Hindi temple along the road.

We made a random stop at a Hindi temple along the road. Only Allie and I were into it enough to take off our shoes and go inside.

The original guru of the temple.

The original guru of the temple.

The keeper of the temple and follower of the guru.

The keeper of the temple and follower of the guru.

Allie holds a boa...notice hers is muzzled. LOL

Allie holds a boa…notice hers is muzzled. LOL

 

The entrance to the Red Fort was impressive, to say the least.

The entrance to the Red Fort was impressive, to say the least.

This room was filled with jewels for one of the king's three wives.

This room was filled with jewels for one of the king’s three wives.

The Taj Mahal was unbelievable.  This King LOVED his Queen. I totally believe Brian would build a monument like this for me...at least out of Legos.

The Taj Mahal was unbelievable. This King LOVED his Queen. I totally believe Brian would build a monument like this for me…at least out of Legos.

 

 

Here's the short version of why the Taj Mahal was built based on what the tour guide said and what I could remember without doing real research....The king and queen were so in love with each other they never wanted to be separated. She asked him what he would do if she ever died and he told her he would build her the most beautiful monument in the world to show his love. They had 14 babies and she was pregnant with their 15th when he went off to war with his troops. He was fighting on the front line and she couldn't bare to not be by his side and followed him into the war where she was shot and died. And so the king built the Taj Mahal (Crown Palace) to show his love for Raj Mahal (his wife).  It took 22 years to build and after it was complete he paid the 20 architects a huge sum of money so they would never need to work again, then cut off their thumbs so they could never duplicate the Taj Mahal.

Here’s the short version of why the Taj Mahal was built based on what the tour guide said and what I could remember without doing real research….The king and queen were so in love with each other they never wanted to be separated. She asked him what he would do if she ever died and he told her he would build her the most beautiful monument in the world to show his love. They had 14 babies and she was pregnant with their 15th when he went off to war with his troops. He was fighting on the front line and she couldn’t bare to not be by his side and followed him into the war where she was shot and died. And so the king built the Taj Mahal (Crown Palace) to show his love for Raj Mahal (his wife).
It took 22 years to build and after it was complete he paid the 20 architects a huge sum of money so they would never need to work again, then cut off their thumbs so they could never duplicate the Taj Mahal.

 

We rock!!

We rock!!

We all paid 700 rupees to attend and when we went into the room it was held (which was where we had breakfast every morning) it was deserted. I went back into the lobby to write more for the school blog and around 8:30 or so, my professor Caitlyn came back down and begged me to come up and dance. I told her I would after I was done writing my post. About 15 minutes later my professor came down with the same request. I had just finished and was waiting for the photos to upload and told him I’d be up soon. Maybe 10 minutes later, “Chetahlicious” as they were calling me made her way into the party. They kids had had drank at least 50 oz of very strong beer till and were getting loosened up. Some Indian men had arrived and in no time we were dancing up a storm to both American and Indian music. Gabby had given the dj her ipod so we could hear songs we actually knew. The Indian men were beside themselves, lucking out to attend a party with 13 American females that were ready to party. I bought my first drink and not long after my second and a beer for Gabby. After than an Indian gentleman named Mark bought all the rest of my drinks and even my friends when I said, “Mark, these are my friends from school!” Mark to me he was a doctor and just randomly chose this party to attend, having no idea who would be there celebrating. He said he paid $100 American dollars for entry. I was shocked since it was about $12 for us. When I went to the restroom in the lobby, word must have gotten out about the party because it was packed at the restaurant door with Indian men wanting in. An armed guard made them move aside so I could reenter. Mark (which was a nickname version of his Indian name) was shy at the beginning of the night but by 11 pm he was wanting me to have his baby. LMAO ,I told him I was spoken for. That was too much for me, butat least he was handsome and didn’t smell.

Caitlin, me and Gabby

Caitlin, me and Gabby

Part of Fyfe's Wolf Pack

Part of Fyfe’s Wolf Pack

The Indian men loved when we danced, but they were completely respectful. I felt one pat my ass and I was shocked...later Gabby admitted it was her messing with my head.

The Indian men loved when we danced, but they were completely respectful. I felt one pat my ass and I was shocked…later Gabby admitted it was her messing with my head.

 

                By 11:50 the party was off the hook and nearly out of control. He opted to bring in the New Year in our professor’s room and I made a cool video. Afterwards we all split up, some of us went downstairs to get on the Wifi and others went to bed. I will always choose Wifi over sleeping. A huge commotion started in the party room and the next thing I knew, two men were thrown out of the hotel into the street. I guess they started fight and a it carried on right outside in the streets.

My ticket to Indian craziness.

My ticket to Indian craziness.

Messing with Professor FyfeMessing with Professor Fyfe

                OK, break in the story. We just got to the airport in New Delhi and realized out flight was moved up—yes up—three hours so we were raced through the airport and security at break neck speed. I made it on the airplane in probably less than 15 minutes with a bottle of water and most likely, luggage that was seriously overweight. I was totally fine with that though, going through security slow and paying for overweight luggage is a drag. The funniest part of this experience was when our tour bus pulled up at the airport and our guide was waiting along the street. He rushed us off the bus and said our flight was moved up three hours and we needed to run to the plane. None of us moved; we were dumb-founded. He paused and said, “Do you all speak English?” We finally grasped what he was saying and started hauling ass to the airport doors. Damn that was funny.

So we are now on the orphanage campus. They children are just amazing, so happy, healthy and eager to learn. This place is truly a blessing and the founder, Mrs. Large, was most certainly touched by God to create this home for nearly 200 orphaned children. 97% of the donated fund goes directly to the care of the children. It was wonderful to meet the little girl I sponsor, Gayathri. She is shy, which is uncommon here, but very smart and happy.

Gayathri and I

Gayathri and I

Hope you are all enjoying the photos!

Love, peace and joy!’

~P.

So you want to wrap? – YCP Hoina 2013

My latest contribution to the India service learning blog site…check it out and comment on the post.  We love to hear from you!

~P.

So you want to wrap? – YCP Hoina 2013.  <—click me!

Day Three was all about Buddhism – YCP Hoina 2013

Since I’m out of photo space temporarily on my blog I’m just posting on the YCP blog for the time being.  Enjoy!

Miss and Love you all!

Let your comments on the Weebly blog so everyone who is with me can enjoy knowing our blog is being read!

Day Three was all about Buddhism – YCP Hoina 2013.

India~ Day 2

It’s 9PM on Sunday and we are on a train to Varanasi, India.  My classmates are tripping about the train ride because it’s a bit sketchy.  There’s nothing secure what-so-ever and they are young and concerned which I get. I feel kinda like a momma hen, reassuring them they will be fine. I think now that we are all settled in they will feel better.

I have a strong stomach but let me tell you, that train station was worse than any farm I’ve ever spent time on.  Men of all ages just peed down on the tracks like it was a huge urinal.  I realize the toilets on the train go right onto the tracks but it was strange to witness grown men piss in public with no concern of the police walking around the platform.

Speaking of which, the police must not enforce anything in India. We were waiting for our bus to pick us up and I watched (and photographed) a man roll a joint and smoke it.  The police rolled up and one hopped out of the minivan. He walked over to the tokin’ Indian and waved the vehicle around him to park.  I’m glad they didn’t arrest him for smoking that joint, or run him over.  He was all huddled up under a blanket and nearly passed for a speed bump.

I’m getting ready to hit the shit hole. There really is no other way to describe it and from what I’m told, there is no door. Guess any Indian hanging out by the tracks might get a glimpse of my white ass. Hope they have their cell phone ready. We are extremely popular here and regularly asked to pose for pictures with citizens or even holding their babies. Maybe it’s good luck to get a white person to hold your baby and take his/her photo.

That happened at the site of Gandhi’s assassination.  This Indian couple with their four children ages roughly 9 months to maybe 8 years old was beyond tickled when Gabby agreed to hold their baby and pose for a picture. Gabby was also asked by a school boy, maybe 12 years old, to pose with him while his friend took the photo.  She agreed and afterwards Fyfe told her they like to photo shop naked bodies onto the heads of white women.  Strangely, we found that amusing rather than offensive.

Caitlin and I just hit the head. I handed her my camera to make a permanent record of me doing the squat over the hole.  There are slightly raised platforms in the shape of shoe prints to indicate where to put your feet.  Well, shoes, no one would go in that “bathroom” without shoes. I took a napkin from Starbucks to wipe with.  Who knew all those napkins I’ve been saving up would come in so handy?

I realize I’m jumping around about day two in India. I blame it on the lack of sleep and the inability to focus in a linear fashion. We had a very late lunch, around 2 pm, in a very fancy restaurant. None of us were dressed appropriately but when you have the money I suppose it doesn’t matter what clothes you have on. I’ve been super lucky with eating the food. Nothing has made me sick and I’ve liked the taste of everything.  At breakfast I ate these little potato cakes and donut shaped cakes dipped in an onion and pepper sauce. I was asked if I wanted an omelet and I said, “Yes please.” There was no cheese in the omelet but there were onions, peppers and Indian spices. I had two pieces of burnt toast (my fault for not watching the toaster) with butter and a mixed jelly that had the taste of vodka. I found it all delicious.

The mosque we visited today was impressive.  The largest mosque in India. I paid the 300 rupees to take my camera in. My souveniers are my photos so if I have to pay to take photos, I will. No one else coughed up the cash but I said I would share my pictures cause I’m nice like that. Karma you know…I am in the right country to be throwing out her name. If only I could get her to visit a few people still back in the US…

We took a rickshaw ride and let me tell you that were more dangerous than hold the cobras yesterday. My driver was a skinny dude and I had Fyfe with me so “puffer” as he smoked while he tried to haul my professor and I around New Delhi had his work cut out for him. Let’s just say I got some great photos and videos as he hauled our asses around at break-neck speed.  At one point we passed all the other drivers as I stuck my head out and yelled, “We kick your slow asses!” much to our driver’s amusement. The one thing that sticks out isn’t the close calls as he whipped in and out of traffic, but the electrical cords zipped tied together like octopi with juiced up legs waiting to explode into flames. Amazingly, our guide said there has never been an electrical fire. Hell, I’ve had several and they were just from one toaster and a hand-held mixer.

The market today was interesting to say the least. As tourists, we are walking targets and Indians are seriously aggressive when it comes to selling their wares. And the street urchins…forget about it, they will sell their souls to make a sale. Well, basically their parents will sell their children’s souls cause their fat mother’s are sitting along the street with babies while the children run around with beaded necklaces and cheap ball point pens hawking them to food for their mother. I would say because the baby needs a new pair of shoes, but the baby was naked sans a sweater. I suppose that cuts down on diapering costs…forget about the shoes.

We ate at the McDonald’s in New Delhi. McDonald’s here is different in that there are no beef products. Cows are sacred and McD’s doesn’t get a free pass. So there are other options, none that I would recommend. In fact, according to Caitlin, the McAloo Tiki smelled and tasted like BO. I’m sure no that we’ve smelled the fecal tracks of New Dehli, the McAloo Tiki was nearly delightful. I ordered a fish sandwich meal, something I never order in the US so I felt I was actually living large. The sandwich looked tiny on the normal size bun so I guess the US really does make their serving sizes larger. It was ok, I mean, its McDonald’s and not a Big Mac.  How great could it be?

By 7:10 pm our “guy” still hadn’t arrived with the train tickets. We were all excited to be traveling on a train where we could sleep.  Funny how that became terrifying after the train resembled a New York subway car…but worse. Never say things can’t get worse.  They can ALWAYS get worse.

I’m reflecting on my shopping today. I honestly didn’t spend that much money as things are really cheap, especially with the money exchange.  I bought 5 outfits for our time at the orphanage, only to be told I got the wrong type of shirt.  Guess what, it’s going to have to work cause I’m not buying more. I bought some gifts for family (Mom, Suz, Tesla, Brian, Blaine and Matthew) and for my friends. Nothing fancy but I think items they will like. I didn’t tell anyone I’d buy them a gift personally so anything should be a nice surprise.

The kidlings are now following my example and writing in their journals. I’m the only one who brought a laptop so they are writing with a pen and notebook. I brought my smartpen and notebook but haven’t used them so far. My eyes are getting heavy as my sleeping pills are kicking in. I think everyone has come to terms that no one is going to yank their curtain back and rape them. I’m ready for some sleep.

I miss Tesla so much and Brian too. I talked to Tesla early this morning (which was about 9 pm for her) and also skyped with Brian. He is so happy for me to be on this trip but misses me as much as I miss him. I feel bad because I’m super busy but I know time is probably going slow for him. Nothing like absences making the heart grow fonder and I wouldn’t have believed my heart could grow fonder for this man. Mark my word, by the end of 2014, we will be happily married. 😉

It is now 12/30/13 and we just arrived at the hotel in Varanasi and will be going Ganges River later this afternoon.  It’s 11:40 AM here!

~P.

P.S. I ran out of data space on my blog for photos.  I upgraded but the funds are on hold so until they are released, I can’t upload anything.  Talk about frustrating!!

Out and About in India Day One

Day one in India was amazing. It started with a buffet breakfast where I tried everything that wasn’t Western.  I know what Frosted Flakes tastes like, I’ll pass on that. I got a good giggle out of my classmates who gave me the heads up that the cantaloupe tasted a little off.  I gave it a try and then let them know it was mango, not cantaloupe.  🙂

Our tour guide had us on the move.  Seriously, we were never given more than 20 minutes at any one place to investigate by ourselves.  I appreciate that she wants to share her knowledge with us but we can also read the sign posted everywhere in English to understand what the monuments or tombs are all about.  This way we could get more Kodak moments in.  With that thought in mind, I asked if we could start our day tomorrow at 9 am instead of 10 am in hopes of taking more photographs.

At Humayun’s Tomb today we were given the usual 20 minutes and I requested 30 minutes which our professor said was fine.  I ran to the bathroom (paid 10 cents for my professor and I to use) and then roamed about on my own.  I was still 5 minutes late getting back but I got photos no one else did!!  I also witnessed an Indian man peeing in the river but I didn’t photograph that. LOL

We ate lunch at a very popular restaurant that I believe was just outside the city named City, which means “head” because at one time, the city had human heads on poles surrounding it.  Yeah, that piece of history was a bit freaky prior to eating.

One thing that doesn’t get old is watching people drive in this country. I find myself holding my breath for these crazy Indian’s on motorcycles and mopeds!

We went to what used to be the governmental buildings while India was under British control. They are very different in appearance than the historical Indian architecture.  Our guide remarked that she didn’t feel Britain conquered India because when they left, they left behind the beautiful buildings, libraries, museums and so much more than what would have ever been here had Britain not taken control.  I guess she has a pretty good outlook on India’s past.

The culture and architecture is quite amazing. I was fascinated by the huge fountains that changed colors and noticed there was a sign posted in front of them.  I said to my teacher, “I bet that says ‘no swimming'” but he had no idea.  I asked our guide when we passed them on the way back from viewing the stretch of presidential area (that was once the British’s headquarters) and she stopped to read the sign. It said, “Do not enter the water! Danger due to electrical current!” That should keep people out because I know in Philly, PA, “No Swimming” doesn’t mean a damn thing on those fountains.

I fell asleep briefly on the bus. I’m not sure how that was possible since the constant horn blowing is enough to drive me crazy. I can’t stand beeping noises, or dinging of the seat belt warning, or even someone tapping their fingers.  I guess that means I was really tired.  That power nap came in handy. I managed to talk one student into venturing into the market area with me.  We ate chicken fried rice and chicken egg rolls until we thought we’d explode.  Even with her buying a soda, our total bill was 245 rupees which is less than $4 and she had leftovers!

Tomorrow we are going to a mosque, then to the place where Gandhi was assassinated and then catching a train that night to Agra to see the Taj Mahal in the morning.

Check back for more….I can seem to post pictures right now, only one uploaded.  Check my Facebook page if you would like to see more!

Checking out the College and Tomb of Alauddin Khalji built in 1296-1316 AD

Checking out the College and Tomb of Alauddin Khalji built in 1296-1316 AD

Good night all!

~P.

At the airport and Cabana Hotel – YCP Hoina 2013

Detail from our first day of travel.  Nothing to exciting yet but we get excited about even the little things….like the fuel pouring out of the wing of our first airplane.  That was fixed and two and a half hours later we were on our way.

At the airport and Cabana Hotel – YCP Hoina 2013. <—click it!

India Bound

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This will be my last post while in the United States!  Hard to believe after six months of patient waiting, I am finally leaving for India.  I’m very excited about the trip and the difference I can make in these children’s lives.  Not just me, but our entire class of 15 that is headed across the world for an International Learning Service course through York College of Pennsylvania.

I am grateful for the support of my family, especially my daughter who was very upset when I originally told her I was leaving the country, but she has since come around and is very happy that I am going to help other children who are much less fortunate than she is.  I explained to her that these children don’t have parents that love and care for them like she does.  She wrote me a song and played and sang it on her new keyboard she got from Santa:

“You are going to India and you will have fun with your friends and teach English to children. And Brian and I will miss you very much and we love you.  And you love Jesus Christ…”  God I love this child!!!

I am also very grateful for the support of my boyfriend, Brian.  Boyfriend just doesn’t seem like a strong enough word to describe him.  I am so in love with this man and will miss him to the point that I imagine it will be painful.  When I get back and we make some final changes in our lives, I know we will get married and stay that way for the rest of our lives.

Lastly, but not least, I am grateful for the support of my family and friends.  I saw my sons, mom, sister, nephew and brother last night, just as Christmas day was wrapping up, and got hugs and kisses from all of them.  My friends have already been messaging me and calling with well wishes and warning me not to drink the water….like I don’t know that. LOL

Well, my bestie is here to house sit for me.  Bless you Trisha!  I love you to pieces and I know my dog is in good hands!  And happy birthday in two days!!!

I have 6 magazines and one Clive Barker book, his first book, Imajica.  If you never heard of this book, it’s 854 pages.  LOL

Love and miss all of you on my blog and Facebook!

Here is the website where I’ll be teaching.  http://www.hoina.org/

The blogsite for my class.  http://yorkcollegehoina2013.weebly.com/

And if I can, I will post on Facebook and my blog!!

Love you!

Pattie

Hanging at Rutter’s but thinking about India

Now that my life is without internet service, I find myself hanging out at Rutter’s using their free Wifi.  It’s amazing how many people come to Rutter’s that I know…I saw my friend Shae the other day, my best girl Trisha and her granddaughter Keira and even the mayor of Dover, Rick Pope.  Rutter’s is a popular place!

So I’m counting down the days until I leave for India.  I realize most of you all are counting down the days until Christmas.  I’m not that excited about Christmas mainly because: 1. My dad has a wild hair up his ass again and I’m not permitted to go to see my mom   2. I’m broke.

About this shunning, my mom is TORN UP because her and I are tight.  John has the biggest mouth, one that runs like a duck’s ass and he can’t seem to keep himself out of my life.  He loves to call my father and tell him about my personal life, none of which is any business of my father or John and Dale is just a tool who won’t see how he’s getting played by “John the Man” or Heather until he is no longer needed for entertainment purposes…seriously, John doesn’t have any real friends and neither does Dale. (Oh, and LaDonna doesn’t count since she’s getting paid to be there.)  I’m not trying to be mean, just stating the truth.  Both men were always amazed by the number of friends I have.  Hmmm…maybe because I’m a nice person?!  Nothing will make me happier then that day in March 2014 when I’m not longer married to that ass clown.  Well, I imagine I will find the day that makes me happier.  The day I marry Brian will make me happier, but first the ass clown has to exit my marital status.

India will be the furthest I’ve traveled in the world.  A whole new land for me to explore.  I’ve promised Brian I will take as few chances as possible while I’m there.  I tend to enjoy the thrill of danger but I don’t have a death wish.  It’s more like I don’t think God is going to take me off the earth anytime soon.  I promise if I ride a motorcycle in India, I’ll wear a helmet.  HAHAHAHA!  That’s more than I do in Pennsylvania!

Remember, beside my personal blog that you’re reading now you can keep track of all 13 York College students and our professor Dave Fyfe at this blogsite.

http://yorkcollegehoina2013.weebly.com/

Guess I need to start packing soon!

~P.

 

I crawled out from under that rock

Seems like forever since I had the time to post.  Seriously, life has been nearly insane.  Some of that insanity has been, well, horrific, and some of that insanity has been heaven sent.  I guess you could say I’m getting it from both directions.

So here’s what’s been going on–the condensed version.

About 2 months ago, I began talking to my crush from middle school, Brian Copenheaver.  It started out just as chatting on Facebook and catching up on the last 25 years since we graduated dear old Dover High School in 1989.  We laughed online and out of the blue he asked me to lunch which I accepted as the restaurant was right by campus.  Ironically, I cancelled on him that Wednesday because I was sick as a dog and we rescheduled for that Friday.  All I can say is when I saw him in person, I knew I was with the wrong person in life and he said the same thing.  Five days later, we had broken up with our significant others, neither of which took that breaking up very well.

At Brian's family Christmas party.  Brian and his son Matthew, Tesla and I.

At Brian’s family Christmas party. Brian and his son Matthew, Tesla and I.

Mine went much worse than his and finally ended with me filing for a protection from abuse order which was granted and I retained use of my townhouse.  My ex-boyfriend felt it necessary to bring my future ex-husband into the PFA hearing claiming that I was lying about what had happened and in fact I was under no threat of harm.  Obviously the judge did not agree and so with the help of my future ex-husband, my ex-boyfriend moved out using the moving company I helped establish.  Nothing like having to see John walking through my house as I sat across the street taking in the scene.  Now if only Dale would move on in his life and stop bothering my friends and asking out my sister.  Can you say creepy?!

I wish I could say things went much more smoothly after that, but of course, nothing is that easy in my life.  John is still fighting me on seeing Tesla more.  I filed for a modification through the courthouse and then we went to a lawyer mediation.  The lawyer did finally get him to agree to at least letting me see her every other Monday after he has his custody weekend.  John made it contingent on me passing a drug test for street and prescription drugs.  I told him I would pass with flying colors and if he wanted he could test my cholesterol and IQ if that would make him happy.  He told me not to be a smart ass, but I just can’t help myself.

I leave for India the day after Christmas.  It’s going to be doubly as hard now since I’m not just leaving Tesla, but Brian also.  Brian has been amazing with his support during such a difficult time.  Dale and John have gone above and beyond to try to break me, but this girl doesn’t break.  I hold my head high knowing I did not lie in court, nor cheat on Dale.  He can say whatever he wants, words don’t hurt me.  As long as I still see Tesla, I don’t care what names either of them call me.  I have an amazing daughter who adores me and a boyfriend who loves me unconditionally.  I can’t ask for much more.

A while back I swore I would never get married again.  I take it back….once I finally get this divorce, a divorce that has been dragging on since 2008, I would be honored to marry Brian, even if I don’t want to change my last name again. LOL

Tomorrow is my last day of fall classes at York College.  I start my final term in the spring and graduate in May 2014 and I am ready to take on life.  I recently was hired on a rotating schedule by the local newspaper, York Daily Record, and my first article will be about my trip to India.  I am pumped for the future and so in love, I feel like I’m walking on air.

Thank God I kept the dog and got rid of the boyfriend!  Ying loves Brian!

Stay tuned…I’ll be gone for a little, but hope to post while I’m in India.

Peace and Love!

~P.

Spartapalooza 2013

By Pattie Crider

http://girlboxer1970.com/2013/11/25/spartapalooza-2013/ This link will take you to the highlights of York College’s Spartapalooza 2013.  Enjoy!