I’ll call the police

“I will call the police,” I heard, walking towards the gymnastic center’s doors.  I could not believe Heather was threatening to call the cops on me.  Well, actually I can.  She sounded just like John.  His voice was still on my mind.

John and I ran into each other earlier that day, at our family doctor’s office.  John had Heather’s son at the office.  I was just leaving after a follow-up concerning my meds.  My stomach was nauseated almost daily for a month and I couldn’t control when I might throw-up.  It didn’t even have to involve John.  It crossed my mind I might be pregnant, but the test clearly showed only one line.  Anyone need the other pregnancy test?

I asked my future ex-beloved to explain why our doctor had no record of Tesla’s atv accident and he said he had not spoken to John about any possible injuries.  John insisted our doctor would put that in writing for him and I said, I will believe it when I see it.  Which is worse?  Not telling me Tesla had an accident on the atv or telling me he had her checked by a doctor when he hadn’t?

Tesla has gymnastics once a week.  My time with Tesla on a personal level is severely restricted.  When I do get time with Tesla one-on-one, I have to sign an agreement that it’s a one time visit.  John is adamant that this is how the judicial system wants our custody agreement handled.  I think he is just a control freak.  Now this week at gymnastics, Heather had Tesla and her girls at the gym but John wasn’t present.  He texted me “sick” after I asked twice why he wasn’t there.  Now I had just seen him earlier in the day at our doctor’s office.  Less than four hours later he is too sick to take Tesla to gymnastics?  Why wasn’t I contacted so I had the opportunity to spend more time with Tesla while her dad was “sick?”

Gymnastics is over….the waiting room is jammed to the hilt with squealing children in spandex and parents trying to get them in or out.  Tesla’s coat was on and I took her hand to walk towards the door.  I had already asked John twice if I could take Tesla home because, I knew she would ask me.  No go…he was fixated on Heather taking Tesla home.  When changing clothes, Tesla asked me in the bathroom if she could go home with me.  I told her I couldn’t take her home with me.  Next, of course, she asked me to take her to her dad’s.  I told her I couldn’t, she would have to ride with Heather.  Tesla was not happy, but I told her I would see her again, as soon as possible.

“Pattie!  Pattie!  Stop, Tesla is going home with me! I’ll call the police!”

Now I am no fool and I have no interest in having the cops come to my daughter’s gymnastics studio.  Heather must have had it in her head (or it was put in her head) that I would sail out of there with Tesla in tow and she would be left behind with only her daughters.  How the hell would she explain that to “The Man?”  What made me giggle inside, though I was nearly at my boiling point on the outside, was “what the hell would she say to the cops after I left to take Tesla home?”

9-1-1 Operator:  911, what is your emergency?

Heather:  I need the police to chase down Patricia Crider.  She left with her daughter, Tesla and is driving her home.

9-1-1 Operator:  Your name is?

Heather:  Heather King.

9-1-1 Operator:  Your relationship to Patricia?

Heather:  She is my boyfriend’s wife and he told me not to let Patricia drive her daughter home because…..we just don’t want her to…..

Obviously, Heather did not call the police, even after I told her to “go right ahead.”  Just more ridiculous threats in front of all four children.  Heather insisted I started the drama because I yelled at her.  Seriously, I barely speak to Heather and she was the one “chasing me down.”

Heather has no business telling me what I can or can’t do with my child.  I don’t want to hear her telling me to “take it back to court if I don’t like the decision.”  What I don’t like is her big mouth filling my ears with what she thinks.  I don’t care what she thinks.  She is just a tool and hasn’t realized it yet.

I wonder what people at church think about Heather and John’s newly formed family.  Does the pastor dance around the fact that they are both married to other people?  I am embarrassed that I can’t get John to go forward with the divorce proceedings.  I don’t want my child growing up thinking it’s ok to be married to one person but screwing someone else.  Neither of them seem to mind that they are setting a terrible example for their offspring.

No shortage of writing material here.



  1. an adult who has lived this as a child says:

    I think Heather has many insecurities and faults of her own and that is why she concentrates so much on causing unecessary drama with you. If she really thinks about it, she is ruining any possible positive relationship with Tesla that she could possibly have or hope to have. Why should she care about that you say? Well, she obviously has insecurities about John not wanting to divorce you so he can marry her….so she is concentrating on making you look like the bad person by creating drama and talking about you. (Which is creating a very negative relationship for her and Tesla). She will eventually find herself being pushed out the door after John sees how much of a negative affect she is having on Tesla….he will side with his daughter in order to protect her from the verbal and mental abuse, that mind you…he is most likely doing himself also. She will then be the one making the negative posts about him. I think it is much more honorable to put Teslas feelings before hers. The benefits and outcome would be so much less stressful for everyone and would bring such good things. Its a real shame that a grown adult puts their feelings of having to have control….before their childs feelings of wanting to love and be loved by both their parents.
    Hoping for positive things to come your way and selfish behaviors to disapear… and for others to be humbled and see the error of their ways!

  2. the older son says:

    Lol honestly I think its kinda funny. Heather I hope u read this.. but here’s my 2 cents… stop worrying about my mothers buisness, and go back to ur married hubby. Y r u making my moms and johns problems ur buisness. I understand ur with john that’s cool (good luck bitch) but leave their past out ur future. Teslas not ur kid and will never be. Hell I have more relevance in telsa life and I see her twice a yr if that. I’ve never met u or do I care to but u need to get ur head out johns ass and start seeing that ur only gunna be around until john sees fit. Personally most people would tell me to keep my mouth shut and mind my own buisness but.. that just wouldn’t work for me 🙂 u might not like my mom because of what johns told u but let me tell u we take care of our own and don’t think ill let u guys sit around and fuck my mothers life up, also my sister. John ur her dad but I’m her brother and don’t forget that… u might be a bigger guy but let me tell u. The blood in my friends is as strong as the blood in my familys veins

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