A balloon of a day @ YCP

Just a harmless prop ;-)

Just a harmless prop 😉

Today I took two balloons to school with me.  One was inflated, the other was not.  The inflated balloon had a rubber band attached and a paperclip on the band.  The band was around my left wrist.  I was curious to how people would react.  Some smiled, some stared at the balloon and others just ignored me and my balloon.

Human Communications class was up first and that was my destination with my balloon.  Someone asked me if my informative speech was about balloons.  I said, “Yes it is.”  This cleared up the balloon on my wrist question.  I got the feeling my classmates thought my topic was a little silly.  They had no idea what they were in for.

In my opening statement I introduced myself and stated “I’m here today to talk to you about balloons and the sexual fetish involving balloons.”   I secretly took the paperclip point and popped the balloon causing the entire room to jump and laugh.  (It was awesome!)  With everyone’s full attention, I continued to give my speech.  I shared with the class what a fetish is, and specifically, a “loon or looner.”  I also explained that the act of someone inflating a balloon is stimulating to some looners.  Then I blew up a balloon with about 3 breaths and let it fly around the room and the class burst out laughing again.  (Oh yeah!)  As I explained some activities that looners include balloons or inflatables, I acted out a few.   The class found this very entertaining and even caused a few guys to hoot and one specific classmate (I won’t name her) started to snort with laughter.

I wrapped up my speech with a quick review, thanked them for listening and ended with, “The next time you’re at a party and see balloons, ask yourself, “Do they look sexy?”

I received a nice round of applause, then I fielded half-a-dozen questions from my classmates and professor until the next speech had to start.  After class the professor said I did a really good job and he wished he would have taped it because it would have been a great example of an informative speech to show his classes.  (I saw the current example.  They had real 80’s hair.  Time for an updated version.)

So I’m feeling good about my balloon.  It made its way around campus this morning and was a fantastic prop in my speech.  My campus balloon.

I wonder if there were any looners in the audience?

Popped,

~P.

Listen up stupid

My ears are on

Feel like no one listens to you?  Even been caught not listening?

How to enhance verbal communications skills:

Simplify your words, concepts and meanings.  Keep it simple stupid.

Get to the point.  Don’t we all know someone who can’t get to the damn point?

Effective Listening:

Find areas of interest.  Don’t tune out dry subjects but instead ask, “what’s in it for me?”

I try to find something interesting that the person next to me is yammering on about.

Judge content, not delivery.

Just because someone can’t speak for shit doesn’t mean they are stupid.  (There are exceptions)

Hold your fire.

Make sure you know what they are saying before you go off on someone.  (That kind of ruins the fun.)

Listen for ideas.  Now and then they come from people you never would expect.

Be flexible.  That’s a given.

Work at listening.  I knew that one….marriage counseling.

Resist distractions.  Damn, I love distractions.

Exercise your mind.  Does doing a crossword puzzle while on the stair climber count?

Keep your mind open.  If my mind gets any more open my brains will spill out.

Next Chapter: The Self and what I mean to me.

~P.

Bold print text taken directly from Effective Listening hand-out Jl.16, everything else is just my thought process.  🙂

Communication Test

Can you hear me now?

How Pattie studies for Human Communication Test

Verbal Communication is: words (spoken, written or coded) in an attempt to communicate with others.

Some people just fucking suck at this.

Power in Communication is: the ability to influence or control the behaviors of another person.

Some people should never have power.

Legitimate power-when people believe you have a right-by virtue of your position-to influence or control others’ behaviors.  Examples of this power: employer, judge, manager or police officer.

It goes to their head.

Referent power-when others wish to be like you.  (a younger brother looking up to an older brother)

I looked up to my mother.

Reward power-when a person controls the rewards others want. Examples would be: money, promotion, jewelry, love, friendship, respect…

I know someone who likes to control the rewards.

Coercive power– when you have the ability to administer punishment to or remove rewards from others if they do not do as you wish.  Usually this power is in conjunction with Reward power.  Examples would be teachers, supervisors, spouses.

Way too many assholes have this type of power.

Expert power– when you have expertise knowledge on a subject.

More of this power is needed.

Information power (also called “persuasion power”)-when others see you as having the ability to communicate logically and persuasively.

I know some seriously persuasive people, one impeticular.

Power is not static; it can be increased or decreased depending on what someone does and doesn’t do.

I am learning how the written word can be used to communicate intimately and publicly.  Lol  The pen is mightier than the sword…

You can decrease or lose power.  The most common way to lose power is by unsuccessfully trying to control another’s behavior.  Example:  If you threaten to do something then fail to carry out your threat, most likely, you will lose power.

Threatened with divorce…where the hell is it?

You can lose power by allowing other to control you or take unfair advantage of you.  When you don’t confront these power tactics, you lose power.

I remember feeling that way.  I no longer feel that way because I’ve taken my power back!  Amazing what the power of knowledge is and how it makes you feel about yourself. 

Next chapter please,

~P.

Oh btw….The sentences in italics are my own thoughts, everything else is right out of Essentials of Human Communication by Joseph A. DeVito