“Who is this?!”

As Jhole insists, I make Tesla call him before bed.  Just like tonight I said “call Daddy before SpongeBob comes on.”  I go ahead and dial, then hand her the phone.  Heather answers, as I suspected she would.  Tesla says “Who is this?  You’re not my dad!” 

“It’s Heather,” Heather says. 

Hmmmm… Heather must be a little slow on getting the picture.  Why would she WANT to answer her new boyfriends phone when his daughter is calling.  Adding to insult, Tesla has no idea who she is and Tesla informed me she didn’t want to have to talk to Heather.  I feel her pain, except of course I’m an adult.  I already know Heather isn’t going to be around for long.  When she realizes what she is a pawn in a game, she will leave.  Unless she’s really that slow. 

Why is she constantly in my home?  Who is she and what is wrong with her that she wants my husband?  Why does she think we need to talk? 

Sister, you can have the man.  But, Tesla is MY daughter and I don’t have to share her with every woman John is trying to hook up with.  He has no business running women in and out of Tesla’s life just so he “has somebody” to be in love with at the moment.

Divorce is painful enough, does it have to include causing your child pain also?  Get a divorce first, then find someone new.   Otherwise, you’re no role model for anyone’s child, much then yet, your own!!!


  1. d r wolf says:

    yes i totally agree….. i have had the unpleasure of meeting him. just once and i can honestly say ….NOT WORTH IT

  2. now wait arent you seeing someone? didnt he give you a diamond ring? then why cant john have someone in his life? from what you say it sounds like john is a jerk but him and heather desrve each other. but just remember you also have a diamond ring and in love with someone else.

    • Yes, I am seeing someone and it is serious. He is planning to move in with me this month as he works it into his schedule. (Always DNS Technologies for all computer needs!)
      John can have someone in his life. Singular, not “see who works out best next”. Dale and I have been exclusively seeing each other, while I was still living at the “Ott” house. I accepted the gift from an awesome man. I honestly don’t view it as an engagement ring. Three reasons why: 1. It was not presented to me as an egagement ring. 2. I don’t know if I would get married again. Maybe some day I’ll get a little crazy and Dale and I will fly to Vegas and be married by Elvis. Doubtful, but who knows? 3. I’m married.

      thanks for reading,
      ~P. 🙂

  3. the only one i feel sorry for in this whole drama is tesla. she never asked for this. you and john will some day have to answer to a higher up for all your sins you are commiting. some day all that you write on here is going to bite you in the ass. and it could be when you are trying to get custody of tesla. the courts have a strange way of working. you should let all your drama off the computer for your daughters sake.

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